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<blockquote data-quote="Blindsided" data-source="post: 753179" data-attributes="member: 23811"><p>I posted a while back on this topic. My d.d. was telling her father's (deceased) sister-in-law a lot of nonsense. Her aunt reached out to me. The short version is I tried to fill her in on my d.d. the aunt then wanted me to be part of an intervention, even after I told her my therapist said never again, as my d d. came at me with a clothing rack with rage in one attempt to get her help. Aunt S said to me "you are going to watch her die an agonizing 'costly ' death. I tried to explain our boundaries and why. I shared the text with my son and he came unglued. He let her know (she is his aunt too) she has no idea what we have all been through to try to help d.d. the last 15 years and to leave me out of it. She told him to tell me she didnt mean to "hurt my feelings". Seriously? It cut me to the core and set me back in my coping. It was those here and my close friends, and family who helped me see aunt S is no more than a busy body. I havent heard anymore about an intervention, but d.d. let me know in no uncertain terms, that aunt S has been there for her, and when she is at the end, it will be said aunt letting me know and d.d. wants nothing to do with me. Of course, several weeks later there was a request for money, which I ignored. Wonder if she hit up good old aunt S? </p><p></p><p>The message I am trying to relate is you did the right thing. We cant control what people do on social media, but we can control the narrative by not looking at it. The people who really know are the only ones I take advice from. </p><p></p><p>Drama is not healthy and that's all it is. Give yourself a gold star for not reacting emotionally. Great job seeing things objectively. </p><p></p><p>In healing</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Blindsided, post: 753179, member: 23811"] I posted a while back on this topic. My d.d. was telling her father's (deceased) sister-in-law a lot of nonsense. Her aunt reached out to me. The short version is I tried to fill her in on my d.d. the aunt then wanted me to be part of an intervention, even after I told her my therapist said never again, as my d d. came at me with a clothing rack with rage in one attempt to get her help. Aunt S said to me "you are going to watch her die an agonizing 'costly ' death. I tried to explain our boundaries and why. I shared the text with my son and he came unglued. He let her know (she is his aunt too) she has no idea what we have all been through to try to help d.d. the last 15 years and to leave me out of it. She told him to tell me she didnt mean to "hurt my feelings". Seriously? It cut me to the core and set me back in my coping. It was those here and my close friends, and family who helped me see aunt S is no more than a busy body. I havent heard anymore about an intervention, but d.d. let me know in no uncertain terms, that aunt S has been there for her, and when she is at the end, it will be said aunt letting me know and d.d. wants nothing to do with me. Of course, several weeks later there was a request for money, which I ignored. Wonder if she hit up good old aunt S? The message I am trying to relate is you did the right thing. We cant control what people do on social media, but we can control the narrative by not looking at it. The people who really know are the only ones I take advice from. Drama is not healthy and that's all it is. Give yourself a gold star for not reacting emotionally. Great job seeing things objectively. In healing [/QUOTE]
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