Again I appreciate each piece of advice because I really don't have anyone to talk to about it other than my mother. Of course she thinks my husband is being ridiculous and my son should be allowed to go. My son doesn't know that my husband feels this way about him and not wanting him to go. That's part of the problem, my husband won't tell him himself , he says I have to tell him. It would hurt my sons feelings terribly if he knew and he may avoid us even more than in the past. That's why I'm stuck in the middle. My son is still with his girlfriend too, has been for 3 years, the first time he has ever been away from her is when he went to rehab. She totally controlled him prior to rehab but I think rehab made him realize that he can be away from her. This trip could have been what got him away from her for good. Their definitely not good for each other.
My son may screw up and I may regret not going on this trip but if I went and he screws up I would have the guilt that it was my fault. So not going is best for me. There's been so much stress over it that I wouldn't enjoy myself anyway.
