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Need help (or an intervention) - she stepped up her game
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<blockquote data-quote="Snow White" data-source="post: 715608" data-attributes="member: 355"><p>So, it's almost like she knows the much needed vacation for hubby and I is right around the corner. </p><p></p><p>Daughter has been living (I'm sure quite well on the $$$ she ripped off from the GoFundMe accounts) in Nepal since November. In the meantime, she's had a few ups & downs since my last post in June. Of course, she kept an on-and-off relationship with the "abusive" boyfriend. In May she decided to "slash" her arm. She called from the hospital to say she had lost 5 litres of blood (Really??? You only have 5 litres in your body), severed 3 arteries (there are only 2 where she cut but maybe she grew a 3rd one) and went into cardiac arrest in the ambulance. From the photo she sent it looks to be a 4 inch slash requiring about 16 stitches. Says she's had some issues with police when drinking. So now she has overstayed her visa big-time and needs to get out of the country. She tried to land-cross into India and got busted for being 55 days over her visa limit. Said she became ill on the bus and was taken to the hospital in the city where she had been staying and supposedly told she had "fatty liver" (drama #1). Told her to stop the alcohol/drugs and high fat foods. She then went to Kathmandu to "deal with her overstay/visa" (drama #2). Today she called to say she is being deported and that she needs me to pay for her flight back to Canada (drama #3). Told her NO. No money. She said, "at least $500 then." I said, NO. Sorry. Can't help but I'm sure you'll figure it out. I don't believe that she is being officially "deported" but rather being told to pay the fine and get out of the country. If they really wanted to deport her, they would pay for her flight out. She's not being detained but says they are 'holding her passport for the weekend until the government offices open up again on Monday." I can't separate the lies from the truths anymore. </p><p></p><p>I'm not taking her back in our house. I sent her the web page info from our government's website that says they will give an emergency loan for a flight back if you are without sufficient means, with repayment to be made in 30 days. She can figure out the details from there. </p><p></p><p>And of course, we had to go and do something really "dramatic" and allowed a friend (in fact, she is one of daughter's former respite workers from way back, who we've kept a strong relationship with) to move in temporarily, as she has found herself in a bad way. She's been with us a few weeks now and does pull her weight as far as household chores go - more than our daughter ever did - but she has some things to sort out and they weigh on us a bit. I think we are viewing her as our "surrogate daughter", who actually wants and needs some help, unlike our own daughter. We thought that with our friend being at the house, we had someone to care for our animals, keep the house safe, etc. </p><p></p><p>Now all I'm worrying about is daughter coming home and bullying her way into the house. This just sucks the life out of me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Snow White, post: 715608, member: 355"] So, it's almost like she knows the much needed vacation for hubby and I is right around the corner. Daughter has been living (I'm sure quite well on the $$$ she ripped off from the GoFundMe accounts) in Nepal since November. In the meantime, she's had a few ups & downs since my last post in June. Of course, she kept an on-and-off relationship with the "abusive" boyfriend. In May she decided to "slash" her arm. She called from the hospital to say she had lost 5 litres of blood (Really??? You only have 5 litres in your body), severed 3 arteries (there are only 2 where she cut but maybe she grew a 3rd one) and went into cardiac arrest in the ambulance. From the photo she sent it looks to be a 4 inch slash requiring about 16 stitches. Says she's had some issues with police when drinking. So now she has overstayed her visa big-time and needs to get out of the country. She tried to land-cross into India and got busted for being 55 days over her visa limit. Said she became ill on the bus and was taken to the hospital in the city where she had been staying and supposedly told she had "fatty liver" (drama #1). Told her to stop the alcohol/drugs and high fat foods. She then went to Kathmandu to "deal with her overstay/visa" (drama #2). Today she called to say she is being deported and that she needs me to pay for her flight back to Canada (drama #3). Told her NO. No money. She said, "at least $500 then." I said, NO. Sorry. Can't help but I'm sure you'll figure it out. I don't believe that she is being officially "deported" but rather being told to pay the fine and get out of the country. If they really wanted to deport her, they would pay for her flight out. She's not being detained but says they are 'holding her passport for the weekend until the government offices open up again on Monday." I can't separate the lies from the truths anymore. I'm not taking her back in our house. I sent her the web page info from our government's website that says they will give an emergency loan for a flight back if you are without sufficient means, with repayment to be made in 30 days. She can figure out the details from there. And of course, we had to go and do something really "dramatic" and allowed a friend (in fact, she is one of daughter's former respite workers from way back, who we've kept a strong relationship with) to move in temporarily, as she has found herself in a bad way. She's been with us a few weeks now and does pull her weight as far as household chores go - more than our daughter ever did - but she has some things to sort out and they weigh on us a bit. I think we are viewing her as our "surrogate daughter", who actually wants and needs some help, unlike our own daughter. We thought that with our friend being at the house, we had someone to care for our animals, keep the house safe, etc. Now all I'm worrying about is daughter coming home and bullying her way into the house. This just sucks the life out of me. [/QUOTE]
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