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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 752317" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>I am going to Europe. I am from there originally. My parents are aging and I want to see them as much as possible while I still can .I have been going every 6 months and this will be my third trip. </p><p></p><p>Funny thing is without Al-Anon, I would not be doing this. When I went into the program 3 years ago, I was consumed by my fears, absolutely paralyzed. Mostly fears about my children but also fear of flying. </p><p></p><p>As part of the Al-Anon 4th step inventory on fears, I challenged myself to confront and walk through fear showing myself courage. And hence I booked the first trip, by myself, when both children were at University. It was a rite of passage for me returning to my roots and also to the woman I was before I devoted my life to my children for 20 years. </p><p></p><p>Last time I went, in April, I became a big baby before the flight again. A lot of the fears of flying returned , I did not want to leave my husband , I cried , was convinced I would die etc As a result, I decided that if u were to go again, I would take one day at a time, not get worked up and ruin the 2 weeks leading up to the trip, make things harder than they need to be on my husband and myself, and accept God's will for my life since I turned my will and life over in Step 3. </p><p></p><p>So far, it's working .I am working hard at staying centered in the present moment. When thoughts of the trip come up, I control my mind to return to the now .I play a game with myself and tell myself everything that is happening right now , ie " I am driving the car, the sky is blue, the sun is shining, the seat is supporting my body etc". It grounds me into the present moment, into my body, and right now all is well. </p><p></p><p>I don't want anxiety before I leave. I just want to go with the flow. I want to think "Today I GET TO go on my trip" rather than surrounding it with fear and anxiety and yuckiness.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 752317, member: 24254"] I am going to Europe. I am from there originally. My parents are aging and I want to see them as much as possible while I still can .I have been going every 6 months and this will be my third trip. Funny thing is without Al-Anon, I would not be doing this. When I went into the program 3 years ago, I was consumed by my fears, absolutely paralyzed. Mostly fears about my children but also fear of flying. As part of the Al-Anon 4th step inventory on fears, I challenged myself to confront and walk through fear showing myself courage. And hence I booked the first trip, by myself, when both children were at University. It was a rite of passage for me returning to my roots and also to the woman I was before I devoted my life to my children for 20 years. Last time I went, in April, I became a big baby before the flight again. A lot of the fears of flying returned , I did not want to leave my husband , I cried , was convinced I would die etc As a result, I decided that if u were to go again, I would take one day at a time, not get worked up and ruin the 2 weeks leading up to the trip, make things harder than they need to be on my husband and myself, and accept God's will for my life since I turned my will and life over in Step 3. So far, it's working .I am working hard at staying centered in the present moment. When thoughts of the trip come up, I control my mind to return to the now .I play a game with myself and tell myself everything that is happening right now , ie " I am driving the car, the sky is blue, the sun is shining, the seat is supporting my body etc". It grounds me into the present moment, into my body, and right now all is well. I don't want anxiety before I leave. I just want to go with the flow. I want to think "Today I GET TO go on my trip" rather than surrounding it with fear and anxiety and yuckiness. [/QUOTE]
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