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Need some stiffening of the backbone...or open to opinions of the group
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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 651732" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>I worked late yesterday and am just getting caught up on this thread. I'm so sorry, Echo. I can't imagine much worse than hearing your adult son's sobs when you know deep inside that bailing him out (literally and figuratively) once again isn't going to help him.</p><p></p><p>The thing is, we WISH they would react with the same level of fear and remorse long before they are in situations like this. But the other things that have led them to this point don't give them pause.</p><p></p><p>So as horrible as it is to a mother's ears, maybe his sobs are a GOOD thing. He needs to not want to be like this anymore.</p><p></p><p>Maybe the fear and the remorse combined with a structured environment and some consistent medication will help him find a better way. There is hope for a new path that way.</p><p></p><p>I think it's safe to say that bailing him out would almost certainly lead to him being back under the bridge, and you would be poorer and feeling abused, and you would get the very same phone call next time. </p><p></p><p>Please do something kind for yourself today, Echo. We are all around you on this, supporting you and holding you close.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 651732, member: 17720"] I worked late yesterday and am just getting caught up on this thread. I'm so sorry, Echo. I can't imagine much worse than hearing your adult son's sobs when you know deep inside that bailing him out (literally and figuratively) once again isn't going to help him. The thing is, we WISH they would react with the same level of fear and remorse long before they are in situations like this. But the other things that have led them to this point don't give them pause. So as horrible as it is to a mother's ears, maybe his sobs are a GOOD thing. He needs to not want to be like this anymore. Maybe the fear and the remorse combined with a structured environment and some consistent medication will help him find a better way. There is hope for a new path that way. I think it's safe to say that bailing him out would almost certainly lead to him being back under the bridge, and you would be poorer and feeling abused, and you would get the very same phone call next time. Please do something kind for yourself today, Echo. We are all around you on this, supporting you and holding you close. [/QUOTE]
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