Welcome to our little corner of the world. I'm sorry you had to find us. You are not alone, there are many of us who share a similar story. I think you've received good advice from the other parents here and I would go along with everything that's been said. You're doing all the right things and it's difficult, I know,I have an adult daughter who I've had to set very strong boundaries with. And, I had to go to court to get guardianship for my granddaughter who presently lives with us.
It's a long road, this detaching process from our kids, it hurts, but it becomes necessary when they are specifically using drugs or in my case, mentally ill. The important issue now is that you get support for yourself. As others mentioned, Al- Anon or any of the 12 step groups are wonderful, or private therapy if you can afford that, or a group for parents of adult children lead by a therapist, you may have to do some research to find out what's available where you live, but there are many resources for support for you. Support will make this path you find yourself on, much, much more comfortable for you. I highly recommend that to you. I hope your life calms down and you find some peace. Hugs!
