We did not want Kay to have to be taking what we called "handouts." Our attitude toward government programs back in the day affected how she looks/looked at them. Now I am sorry we didn't have her tested for SSI. In the end, Lee and Kay will also be on state programs.
They may be already.
I wonder if our bad attitude about these programs made Kay feel better taking from us instead of getting state aid. We certainly see the need for these programs now and feel differently about both them and those who need them. Some people truly can not sustain themselves. My daughter may be one. We all need to feel compassion and not resentment. If you have a struggling adult child, you see the need. At least, I do. I just thought before having Kay that almost everyone could find a sustainable job and self support unless the person was lazy. I no longer think it's that simple at all.
If only we could do the past over again.
