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<blockquote data-quote="JKF" data-source="post: 665538" data-attributes="member: 12470"><p>Thank you for your comments and support. I didn't get to see Difficult Child to say goodbye before he left on Wed. He left before I had a chance to meet him. He called me continuously throughout his trip though and has been calling me NONSTOP since he got there. </p><p></p><p>So, much in the fashion of difficult children, he impulsively went to Florida without any money and without a plan. Yup. Just thought he'd arrive there and everything would be magically different. He went to see the girl he ran away with to PA 3 years ago when this whole homeless thing began. But guess what? She's no where to be found. Won't answer his calls. Isn't on Facebook. Basically ditched him IF she even knew he was coming in the first place. I wouldn't doubt that he just decided to go "surprise" her without her knowing he was coming but who knows. It very well could have been planned and she just ditched him.</p><p></p><p>For 2 days now he's been calling me nonstop. He has no food. No money. No where to stay. It's hot. He's starving. He's dying. If only he had a BICYCLE everything would be ok. Really?? Because a f'ing bicycle is going to solve all of your problems. Ugh! I can't!! He begged me to get him a room yesterday but I can't get him a hotel room even if I wanted to because 1) I'd have to put it on my CC and I don't trust him and 2) Even if I was an idiot and got him a room he can't check in without a credit card of his own. So that's not an option. I gave him numbers to the local shelters but he'd rather sit in front of the Walmart than go to a shelter. Every suggestion I make - Walk to the beach and swim, check out town, call a shelter, etc. is met with a reason why that's a stupid idea and he CAN'T do any of those things. I got him a $25 e gift card to Burger King because it's food and I'm always willing to feed my child, Difficult Child or not, however it's apparently useless because the BK is ONE MILE away from the Walmart and that's too far of a walk in that kind of heat. He had the nerve to say "If only you got me a Subway card everything would be fine because there's a Subway here at the Walmart." Really??!! Are you f'ing kidding me?</p><p></p><p>In the beginning I was nice and listened to his frustrations when he called because I do feel bad that he put himself in such a bad situation but now he's in panic mode and is starting to get cranky during the calls. I was finally very firm with him the last time he called because I'm fed up. I said "This was your idea and you need to figure out what to do. I've given you numbers to shelters, I've paid for food, and yet you're still complaining. Call a shelter, go get something to eat and stop with the BS. You're the one who went 1200 miles away to see a girl who has shown her true colors to you many times in the past. So stop whining and do something about your situation because there's nothing anyone else can do and you can't live at the Walmart."</p><p></p><p>He's upset and angry and near tears but what can I do? I told him from the beginning that this was a bad idea. He had it set in his mind that he wanted to go and there's no stopping him once he decides to do something. He's determined to go out of his way to "F" up his life, yet going to apply for SSI (he would have it by now if only he'd gone to his appointments) is "too much trouble because it takes a lot of time and people suck". </p><p></p><p>Anyway, I'm going to have a glass of wine and relax with my husband. I just needed to vent here real quick because you guys are the only ones who truly understand!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JKF, post: 665538, member: 12470"] Thank you for your comments and support. I didn't get to see Difficult Child to say goodbye before he left on Wed. He left before I had a chance to meet him. He called me continuously throughout his trip though and has been calling me NONSTOP since he got there. So, much in the fashion of difficult children, he impulsively went to Florida without any money and without a plan. Yup. Just thought he'd arrive there and everything would be magically different. He went to see the girl he ran away with to PA 3 years ago when this whole homeless thing began. But guess what? She's no where to be found. Won't answer his calls. Isn't on Facebook. Basically ditched him IF she even knew he was coming in the first place. I wouldn't doubt that he just decided to go "surprise" her without her knowing he was coming but who knows. It very well could have been planned and she just ditched him. For 2 days now he's been calling me nonstop. He has no food. No money. No where to stay. It's hot. He's starving. He's dying. If only he had a BICYCLE everything would be ok. Really?? Because a f'ing bicycle is going to solve all of your problems. Ugh! I can't!! He begged me to get him a room yesterday but I can't get him a hotel room even if I wanted to because 1) I'd have to put it on my CC and I don't trust him and 2) Even if I was an idiot and got him a room he can't check in without a credit card of his own. So that's not an option. I gave him numbers to the local shelters but he'd rather sit in front of the Walmart than go to a shelter. Every suggestion I make - Walk to the beach and swim, check out town, call a shelter, etc. is met with a reason why that's a stupid idea and he CAN'T do any of those things. I got him a $25 e gift card to Burger King because it's food and I'm always willing to feed my child, Difficult Child or not, however it's apparently useless because the BK is ONE MILE away from the Walmart and that's too far of a walk in that kind of heat. He had the nerve to say "If only you got me a Subway card everything would be fine because there's a Subway here at the Walmart." Really??!! Are you f'ing kidding me? In the beginning I was nice and listened to his frustrations when he called because I do feel bad that he put himself in such a bad situation but now he's in panic mode and is starting to get cranky during the calls. I was finally very firm with him the last time he called because I'm fed up. I said "This was your idea and you need to figure out what to do. I've given you numbers to shelters, I've paid for food, and yet you're still complaining. Call a shelter, go get something to eat and stop with the BS. You're the one who went 1200 miles away to see a girl who has shown her true colors to you many times in the past. So stop whining and do something about your situation because there's nothing anyone else can do and you can't live at the Walmart." He's upset and angry and near tears but what can I do? I told him from the beginning that this was a bad idea. He had it set in his mind that he wanted to go and there's no stopping him once he decides to do something. He's determined to go out of his way to "F" up his life, yet going to apply for SSI (he would have it by now if only he'd gone to his appointments) is "too much trouble because it takes a lot of time and people suck". Anyway, I'm going to have a glass of wine and relax with my husband. I just needed to vent here real quick because you guys are the only ones who truly understand! [/QUOTE]
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