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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 690515" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>It isn't the inheritance. It's the intention. Please google Malignant Narcissist mother, Seeking. You may find some small comfort there. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Oh, no.</p><p></p><p>Possible for you to prepare now to contest the Will in the name of the other two children if this happens?</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>And that, according to the grandmother and the grandson, is their crime.</p><p></p><p>In supporting you, in seeing you at all, they are ruining the Shun. Ruining the mother's lust for power, and interfering with her lust for vengeance. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>When my paternal grandmother died, her assets were divided equally between her two sons. But my grandmother listed money still owing to her from each son's children (or the son himself) against the size of that son's inheritance.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>It is not crazy, Seeking. It is malice.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>There will be strength for you and husband, Seeking, in this response. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I agree.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This is something to think about.</p><p></p><p>But what we are not addressing here is the core level betrayal Seeking's son is committing. To have slithered into an alliance with Seeking's dysfunctional mother (as my sister has, too) and then, to have gone straight for the Will (as my sister also has done) is an indication of how this brother will treat his sibs once Seeking and her husband are gone. He will form alliance with the one he can dominate, isolating the other. Past behavior indicates future behavior. </p><p></p><p>Malice.</p><p></p><p>That is a good word to remember, when addressing the behavior of both Seeking's mother and her son.</p><p></p><p>Seeking, I am horrified.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I am so angry for your sake.</p><p></p><p>Not only has the grandmother betrayed you and your D H in harboring this grown man grandchild against your wishes, but she has prevented the very things you and D H have sacrificed your relationship to this son to achieve: The grandson's independence and self respect.</p><p></p><p>And of course, the grandmother knows this, too. You give her too much credit when you believe she believes his stories of mistreatment, and that is why she is helping him now. </p><p></p><p>She is helping him now to destroy you. </p><p></p><p>And him.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>She is gutting you through your son Seeking, and he is not only allowing, but celebrating that. </p><p></p><p>Never let them see you sweat.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>A web of lies is created and believed. Alliances are formed between the primary abuser and those he or she can dominate. The purpose of the alliance is to isolate and punish the one who refuses to be dominated. </p><p></p><p>Winner takes all.</p><p></p><p>And it isn't about the money.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This is unbelievable. That your mother would do this turns my stomach. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>IC, this is genius.</p><p></p><p>***</p><p></p><p>Seeking, why did the brother tell you this. Are you certain (I suppose there can be no way to know) that your mother is not splitting your inheritance equally between your children.</p><p></p><p>What is the brother's relationship to your mother? Does he have his own money or is his inheritance on the line here too.</p><p></p><p>Tell him nothing you do not want your mother to know. </p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 690515, member: 17461"] It isn't the inheritance. It's the intention. Please google Malignant Narcissist mother, Seeking. You may find some small comfort there. Oh, no. Possible for you to prepare now to contest the Will in the name of the other two children if this happens? And that, according to the grandmother and the grandson, is their crime. In supporting you, in seeing you at all, they are ruining the Shun. Ruining the mother's lust for power, and interfering with her lust for vengeance. When my paternal grandmother died, her assets were divided equally between her two sons. But my grandmother listed money still owing to her from each son's children (or the son himself) against the size of that son's inheritance. It is not crazy, Seeking. It is malice. There will be strength for you and husband, Seeking, in this response. I agree. This is something to think about. But what we are not addressing here is the core level betrayal Seeking's son is committing. To have slithered into an alliance with Seeking's dysfunctional mother (as my sister has, too) and then, to have gone straight for the Will (as my sister also has done) is an indication of how this brother will treat his sibs once Seeking and her husband are gone. He will form alliance with the one he can dominate, isolating the other. Past behavior indicates future behavior. Malice. That is a good word to remember, when addressing the behavior of both Seeking's mother and her son. Seeking, I am horrified. I am so angry for your sake. Not only has the grandmother betrayed you and your D H in harboring this grown man grandchild against your wishes, but she has prevented the very things you and D H have sacrificed your relationship to this son to achieve: The grandson's independence and self respect. And of course, the grandmother knows this, too. You give her too much credit when you believe she believes his stories of mistreatment, and that is why she is helping him now. She is helping him now to destroy you. And him. She is gutting you through your son Seeking, and he is not only allowing, but celebrating that. Never let them see you sweat. A web of lies is created and believed. Alliances are formed between the primary abuser and those he or she can dominate. The purpose of the alliance is to isolate and punish the one who refuses to be dominated. Winner takes all. And it isn't about the money. This is unbelievable. That your mother would do this turns my stomach. IC, this is genius. *** Seeking, why did the brother tell you this. Are you certain (I suppose there can be no way to know) that your mother is not splitting your inheritance equally between your children. What is the brother's relationship to your mother? Does he have his own money or is his inheritance on the line here too. Tell him nothing you do not want your mother to know. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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