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<blockquote data-quote="SeekingStrength" data-source="post: 690523" data-attributes="member: 17635"><p>Thanks. It always amazes me how you folks get right to the truth - truths I have not spelled out just because it seemed too much to type.</p><p></p><p>I will look into the life insurance. At our ages, I think it would be cost-prohibitive and at least one of our kids would not be able to help with the premium. He just graduated from college and has student loans and all the expenses of starting his new life. Yet, we are young enough that a 10-15 yr term policy would not be good enough. But, I'll get some numbers to see.</p><p></p><p>What my mother has told my father is that she wants to leave my part in the will to my Difficult Child. The grandchildren aren't listed in the will, just my brother and I. So, my brother and my Difficult Child would be the two beneficiaries.</p><p></p><p>Ah yes, the Narcisisstic thing...and I will Google the Malignant type.</p><p></p><p>I marvel at how long i have tried to keep a relationship going with my mother. There have been numerous times of her not speaking to me. At 60yo, I am too, too old to play her game.</p><p></p><p>About a week ago, within a 5 hour period, I received a vm and three emails from her. She said my dad told her that perhaps I was ready to meet with Difficult Child. (I have not spoken with my parents since the second week in March, but had sent several friendly emails to her in May that were never answered. She claimed to have just found them and responded to each one during that 5 hour time frame). I sent a friendly, newsy email the next day and mentioned that the time was not right for husband and me to meet with Difficult Child and that I had promised Difficult Child not to discuss him with her and intended to honor that. Never heard a word back.</p><p></p><p>I did tell Difficult Child I would not discuss him with my mother. She was repeating everything I said about him, and most assuredly in a twisted way. And, I knew better than to have ever said anything to her. I knew better from reading this forum.</p><p></p><p>At one time, my dad would stand up to my mother. I think he got so tired of the punishment, he just kind of gave up/gave in to keep peace.</p><p></p><p>While I trust my brother, I am careful with what I say. He lives in the same town and sees my parents several times a week. He does a lot of work for them around the house and yard. </p><p></p><p>Oh, he texted me an FYI yesterday that Difficult Child was showing my parents my daughter's FB page. My daughter has Difficult Child blocked so we have no idea how he is doing that. There is nothing incriminating, but she is way more liberal than my parents. Brother and Dad had just had lunch and i guess brother just wanted to update me on what was going on. </p><p></p><p>He and i have always been close.</p><p></p><p>He is their favorite. ; ></p><p></p><p>Thanks again for having my back. I feel better.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeekingStrength, post: 690523, member: 17635"] Thanks. It always amazes me how you folks get right to the truth - truths I have not spelled out just because it seemed too much to type. I will look into the life insurance. At our ages, I think it would be cost-prohibitive and at least one of our kids would not be able to help with the premium. He just graduated from college and has student loans and all the expenses of starting his new life. Yet, we are young enough that a 10-15 yr term policy would not be good enough. But, I'll get some numbers to see. What my mother has told my father is that she wants to leave my part in the will to my Difficult Child. The grandchildren aren't listed in the will, just my brother and I. So, my brother and my Difficult Child would be the two beneficiaries. Ah yes, the Narcisisstic thing...and I will Google the Malignant type. I marvel at how long i have tried to keep a relationship going with my mother. There have been numerous times of her not speaking to me. At 60yo, I am too, too old to play her game. About a week ago, within a 5 hour period, I received a vm and three emails from her. She said my dad told her that perhaps I was ready to meet with Difficult Child. (I have not spoken with my parents since the second week in March, but had sent several friendly emails to her in May that were never answered. She claimed to have just found them and responded to each one during that 5 hour time frame). I sent a friendly, newsy email the next day and mentioned that the time was not right for husband and me to meet with Difficult Child and that I had promised Difficult Child not to discuss him with her and intended to honor that. Never heard a word back. I did tell Difficult Child I would not discuss him with my mother. She was repeating everything I said about him, and most assuredly in a twisted way. And, I knew better than to have ever said anything to her. I knew better from reading this forum. At one time, my dad would stand up to my mother. I think he got so tired of the punishment, he just kind of gave up/gave in to keep peace. While I trust my brother, I am careful with what I say. He lives in the same town and sees my parents several times a week. He does a lot of work for them around the house and yard. Oh, he texted me an FYI yesterday that Difficult Child was showing my parents my daughter's FB page. My daughter has Difficult Child blocked so we have no idea how he is doing that. There is nothing incriminating, but she is way more liberal than my parents. Brother and Dad had just had lunch and i guess brother just wanted to update me on what was going on. He and i have always been close. He is their favorite. ; > Thanks again for having my back. I feel better. [/QUOTE]
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