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<blockquote data-quote="crazymoon41" data-source="post: 519268" data-attributes="member: 14280"><p>Thank you all so much for giving me some valuable advice. Yes, Mason is my biological son. My husband is in the home and he and I have a very good relationship. We have been together since we were 17 and I'm now 41. (shhhh!) It's the stress of dealing with Mason that has given us an even stronger bond. My family isn't very supportive and in some cases is non existant when it comes to my children. Most of my friends work full time and none have the issues that I am dealing with. I feel embarrassed talking to them about the things that happen in our home. Lately my husband has been working 80 hr. weeks so it has just been me dealing with things. It's unusual for him to be working so much.</p><p></p><p>Mason plays very well with children his own age and is very social. Even his nursery school teachers have a hard time believing me about his behavior. Thankfully one of my closest friends is one of the teachers and backs me up. Was he developmentally delayed? Somewhat. He was maybe a couple of months behind in his speech and walking. He is still not consistently potty trained. While Mason is catching up in the height and weight department, he has always been on the low end of the growth chart. Next year Mason will be the appropriate age for kindergarten but under the advice of his nursery school will be returning to them instead. They do not feel he is emotionally mature enough for kindergarten. The one thing that Mason deffinetly cannot do is play by himself. He constantly needs someone to entertain or direct him. My mother says he's just a spoiled brat. Sweet, isn't she?</p><p></p><p>He does display some compulsive tendancies. He becomes obsessive about strange things. Example: one day he started to talk about wanting to play miniature golf. Well, we live in the northeast and it was the middle of winter. Trying to explain to him that miniature golf was not an option because of the weather would just set him off. The idea of building his own mini golf course came into his head and that's all he talked about from the time he got up until he went to bed. He began drawing elaborate golf courses every day and throwing massive tantrums when he was told we couldn't build it. This went on for over a month. Now it's a book that one of my daughter's friends brought over. It's a book on collecting Pez dispensers and is geared more towards adult collectors. Mason <strong>needs </strong>this book and talks about it almost every day. It would be almost funny if it wasn't my life.</p><p></p><p>I feel so much guilt. Like I have done something to cause this behavior in him. Finding help has been extremely frustrating and I'm at my wits end. How do others deal with the day to day stress of it? And time outs <strong>do not </strong>work. Taking things away do not work. Talking in a quiet, calm voice does not work. I have never, ever spanked him but there have been times when I have wanted to. That alone brings me such shame. </p><p></p><p>One other thing I have forgotten to mention and I don't know if it's relevant or not. When I was pregnant with Mason I had to have an amnio because I was given a 1 in 15 chance that he had Downs Syndrome. The amnio came back negative. </p><p></p><p>Thank you all so much again. You don't know how much lighter I felt after posting last night.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="crazymoon41, post: 519268, member: 14280"] Thank you all so much for giving me some valuable advice. Yes, Mason is my biological son. My husband is in the home and he and I have a very good relationship. We have been together since we were 17 and I'm now 41. (shhhh!) It's the stress of dealing with Mason that has given us an even stronger bond. My family isn't very supportive and in some cases is non existant when it comes to my children. Most of my friends work full time and none have the issues that I am dealing with. I feel embarrassed talking to them about the things that happen in our home. Lately my husband has been working 80 hr. weeks so it has just been me dealing with things. It's unusual for him to be working so much. Mason plays very well with children his own age and is very social. Even his nursery school teachers have a hard time believing me about his behavior. Thankfully one of my closest friends is one of the teachers and backs me up. Was he developmentally delayed? Somewhat. He was maybe a couple of months behind in his speech and walking. He is still not consistently potty trained. While Mason is catching up in the height and weight department, he has always been on the low end of the growth chart. Next year Mason will be the appropriate age for kindergarten but under the advice of his nursery school will be returning to them instead. They do not feel he is emotionally mature enough for kindergarten. The one thing that Mason deffinetly cannot do is play by himself. He constantly needs someone to entertain or direct him. My mother says he's just a spoiled brat. Sweet, isn't she? He does display some compulsive tendancies. He becomes obsessive about strange things. Example: one day he started to talk about wanting to play miniature golf. Well, we live in the northeast and it was the middle of winter. Trying to explain to him that miniature golf was not an option because of the weather would just set him off. The idea of building his own mini golf course came into his head and that's all he talked about from the time he got up until he went to bed. He began drawing elaborate golf courses every day and throwing massive tantrums when he was told we couldn't build it. This went on for over a month. Now it's a book that one of my daughter's friends brought over. It's a book on collecting Pez dispensers and is geared more towards adult collectors. Mason [B]needs [/B]this book and talks about it almost every day. It would be almost funny if it wasn't my life. I feel so much guilt. Like I have done something to cause this behavior in him. Finding help has been extremely frustrating and I'm at my wits end. How do others deal with the day to day stress of it? And time outs [B]do not [/B]work. Taking things away do not work. Talking in a quiet, calm voice does not work. I have never, ever spanked him but there have been times when I have wanted to. That alone brings me such shame. One other thing I have forgotten to mention and I don't know if it's relevant or not. When I was pregnant with Mason I had to have an amnio because I was given a 1 in 15 chance that he had Downs Syndrome. The amnio came back negative. Thank you all so much again. You don't know how much lighter I felt after posting last night. [/QUOTE]
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