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<blockquote data-quote="galadriel" data-source="post: 166535"><p>Hi I am relatively new here too and must say we are working off the same script! </p><p> </p><p>I have a husband who works 80 hrs a week, and falls exhausted into a chair when he is home, so it's like being single. </p><p> </p><p>I have 16 year old male identical twins, one has a couple of diagnoses, ADD and Bi-Polar, (that seemed to co-incide with the start of his marijuana use) The other boy smokes too but seems to handle it better. Weed makes my difficult child absolutely insane with rage, screaming obscenities, scary stuff. When he's rational I tell him he's like a mean drunk and can't handle it. Both boys went through substance abuse counseling with 4 of us as a family but somewhere along the line the counselor said "oh I forgot to advise you that this is voluntary". Guess what? That was the last meeting, as it also coincided with spring planting season (farmer husband). My kids only tested positive for the weed, so other drugs were not evident at that point. </p><p> </p><p>The one time they tried drinking, the interaction with difficult child's medication made him throw up, so it was like adversion therapy I guess, they haven't tried that again. I do watch my own medications like a hawk, I had a script for a muscle relaxer after pulling out my back and about 8 of those pills disappeared....</p><p> </p><p>difficult child managed to get himself expelled for one week for smoking dope on the school grounds but had a tutor and grades stayed good. So I don't have any Court or services backing me up here! </p><p> </p><p>My primary care doctor put me on Zoloft because when difficult child gets really bad I was just weeping inconsolably which wasn't helping him or the situation. difficult child knows he can get away with a lot with me because I hate the thought of calling the cops. (We did call the cops for the drinking incident because there were quite a few juveniles involved in a secret beer party along the local creek.)</p><p> </p><p>My kids also smoke cigarettes and they are constantly fighting about who has cigs, who took cigs, who shared cigs with friends and ended up short, where to get over 18 yr olds to buy cigs for them, it runs their lives. It's horrifying to me because what a waste of money and health. Plus it ends up being my money because they want to do extra chores for cash and I enable this because I need the help. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/anxious.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":anxious:" title="anxious :anxious:" data-shortname=":anxious:" /></p><p> </p><p>difficult child is quite personable when he wants to be and has managed to secure TWO summer jobs, one washing dishes at a restaurant and one as custodial student helper FT at his high school. He is going to be awash in money soon and I know his scuzzy stoner friends are going to get it all for drugs and pizza. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p> </p><p>Feel free to PM me, we are definitely in the same boat.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="galadriel, post: 166535"] Hi I am relatively new here too and must say we are working off the same script! I have a husband who works 80 hrs a week, and falls exhausted into a chair when he is home, so it's like being single. I have 16 year old male identical twins, one has a couple of diagnoses, ADD and Bi-Polar, (that seemed to co-incide with the start of his marijuana use) The other boy smokes too but seems to handle it better. Weed makes my difficult child absolutely insane with rage, screaming obscenities, scary stuff. When he's rational I tell him he's like a mean drunk and can't handle it. Both boys went through substance abuse counseling with 4 of us as a family but somewhere along the line the counselor said "oh I forgot to advise you that this is voluntary". Guess what? That was the last meeting, as it also coincided with spring planting season (farmer husband). My kids only tested positive for the weed, so other drugs were not evident at that point. The one time they tried drinking, the interaction with difficult child's medication made him throw up, so it was like adversion therapy I guess, they haven't tried that again. I do watch my own medications like a hawk, I had a script for a muscle relaxer after pulling out my back and about 8 of those pills disappeared.... difficult child managed to get himself expelled for one week for smoking dope on the school grounds but had a tutor and grades stayed good. So I don't have any Court or services backing me up here! My primary care doctor put me on Zoloft because when difficult child gets really bad I was just weeping inconsolably which wasn't helping him or the situation. difficult child knows he can get away with a lot with me because I hate the thought of calling the cops. (We did call the cops for the drinking incident because there were quite a few juveniles involved in a secret beer party along the local creek.) My kids also smoke cigarettes and they are constantly fighting about who has cigs, who took cigs, who shared cigs with friends and ended up short, where to get over 18 yr olds to buy cigs for them, it runs their lives. It's horrifying to me because what a waste of money and health. Plus it ends up being my money because they want to do extra chores for cash and I enable this because I need the help. :anxious: difficult child is quite personable when he wants to be and has managed to secure TWO summer jobs, one washing dishes at a restaurant and one as custodial student helper FT at his high school. He is going to be awash in money soon and I know his scuzzy stoner friends are going to get it all for drugs and pizza. :frowny: Feel free to PM me, we are definitely in the same boat. [/QUOTE]
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