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<blockquote data-quote="mom_in_training" data-source="post: 170224" data-attributes="member: 2727"><p>"difficult child - - 24 - ADHD, anxiety/bonded out - left rehab"</p><p></p><p>Well unfortunately your difficult child did not start off on the right foot and ended up where he is but ummmm he created it by making the wrong choice. I say so long as a person knows right from wrong there is no excuse regardless and they need to take responsibility for their actions that got them there in the first place. Once he does that it will be a lil easier for him to go to the next step that is if he chooses to. If he does not choose that then he is not ready to change.</p><p></p><p>Regardless of where he is hes there and does in fact have the resources offered up to him. Might not be the exact program that you think might fit his needs but it is a start.</p><p>He has to want to take advantage of these resources willingly, Instead he skates around it all with attitude while putting more effort into wiggling his way back into Mom and Dads home. Hmmm Easy escape, Not taking responsibility at all. My opinion, I think its a pretty selfish act to think that its all good to keep throwing himself and his problems back into your lap and think nothing of it. Its like throw the pacifier away already and get off of Mamas lap for god sakes. He is 24. The reality is that if he chooses to accept any help offered up to him he cannot get that from you. You baby him to much and in the end that just enables him. Its harsh but true. Although much different scenario, I knew that I would be a wimp at my difficult children first swimming lesson and probably panic because I am Mom and that is normal but instead I chose to distance myself so I would not baby her when she cried because she was scared. She was in trusted hands that did not baby her in any way and in the end it made her the strong swimmer that she is today.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom_in_training, post: 170224, member: 2727"] "difficult child - - 24 - ADHD, anxiety/bonded out - left rehab" Well unfortunately your difficult child did not start off on the right foot and ended up where he is but ummmm he created it by making the wrong choice. I say so long as a person knows right from wrong there is no excuse regardless and they need to take responsibility for their actions that got them there in the first place. Once he does that it will be a lil easier for him to go to the next step that is if he chooses to. If he does not choose that then he is not ready to change. Regardless of where he is hes there and does in fact have the resources offered up to him. Might not be the exact program that you think might fit his needs but it is a start. He has to want to take advantage of these resources willingly, Instead he skates around it all with attitude while putting more effort into wiggling his way back into Mom and Dads home. Hmmm Easy escape, Not taking responsibility at all. My opinion, I think its a pretty selfish act to think that its all good to keep throwing himself and his problems back into your lap and think nothing of it. Its like throw the pacifier away already and get off of Mamas lap for god sakes. He is 24. The reality is that if he chooses to accept any help offered up to him he cannot get that from you. You baby him to much and in the end that just enables him. Its harsh but true. Although much different scenario, I knew that I would be a wimp at my difficult children first swimming lesson and probably panic because I am Mom and that is normal but instead I chose to distance myself so I would not baby her when she cried because she was scared. She was in trusted hands that did not baby her in any way and in the end it made her the strong swimmer that she is today. [/QUOTE]
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