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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 695609" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I think actions speak louder than words.</p><p></p><p>For everyone. It's one thing for anyone to say "I've changed!" and another thing to actually do it. If somebody has problematic behavior with a lot of lies and bad choices, I'd rather see them turn it around than hear about doing it. The older they are, the harder it is going to be to change...and also the less likely. Dependence on parents, crime, neverending childhood becomes a lifestyle, if we allow it.</p><p></p><p>As for over talking to our adult kids, I speak for nobody else but my motto is "less is more." I feel over talking is unhelpful. However no matter how much you talk to an adult child, you aren't taking his money, asking for him to cosign an apartment or loan, insisting he is a terrible person if he won't let you move into his place for free etc.</p><p></p><p>I think they are not on a par, although I am the first mom to keep my words short. My mom was very verbally abusive and quite a nag. I never want to be her.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 695609, member: 1550"] I think actions speak louder than words. For everyone. It's one thing for anyone to say "I've changed!" and another thing to actually do it. If somebody has problematic behavior with a lot of lies and bad choices, I'd rather see them turn it around than hear about doing it. The older they are, the harder it is going to be to change...and also the less likely. Dependence on parents, crime, neverending childhood becomes a lifestyle, if we allow it. As for over talking to our adult kids, I speak for nobody else but my motto is "less is more." I feel over talking is unhelpful. However no matter how much you talk to an adult child, you aren't taking his money, asking for him to cosign an apartment or loan, insisting he is a terrible person if he won't let you move into his place for free etc. I think they are not on a par, although I am the first mom to keep my words short. My mom was very verbally abusive and quite a nag. I never want to be her. [/QUOTE]
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