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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 735500" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My Daughter, who is 35 and doing amazing now, started drugging at 12. Don't rule that out. MANY drugs don't show up on drug tests!!! The kids know which drugs don't show up.</p><p></p><p>I checked my daughters room and purse and found the evidence then major grounded her and she would sneak out at night. We had to put bars on her bedroom windows and called the cops when we found her with drugs. She was put on parole. Twice. She was put in a hospital. Didn't work. She wouldn't go for counseling. She was not allowed to drive our car when she got older. Not after she destroyed our van.</p><p>Looking back I didn't know what else we could have done.</p><p> We are all limited. There was no technology back then to ground her from. We tried to ask the school for help as she cut often. They told us they had 1000 students and couldn't just watch her. Gee, thanks for trying! She was smart so they refused an IEP.</p><p>All this time she remained loving to us but she was destroying herself.</p><p>We made her leave at 19. We had little kids to think of. She QUIT meth and cocaine, her two demons! She quit by a year later. She found it hard with no money and got a job and worked in the house she was allowed to stay in as well. She didn't want to be locked out and homeless. She even quit cigarettes. She was allowed to live, after begging, with an older brother who was very strict, more than us and she knew one wrong move was the street. So she.listened to him where she wouldn't to us. He had legal tenants at his house and she had to clean and cook for them all. She did!</p><p></p><p>Your daughter is still very young. Maybe tell her she shapes up or you won't get her a driver's license. Wish I'd thought of that! No cell phone or Internet maybe? We tried homeschooling....that's another option. Helped s tad.</p><p></p><p>Do try to get her to talk to a counselor. Maybe she will. Right now you can only do so much bit this does not mean that she won't see the light, like mine did. Please keep the hope.</p><p>Meanwhile talk to your younger daughter and make fun time for yourself too. You don't help your daughter by giving up your own life. Is your wife her mom? If not can mom help? Our daughter acted out after a divorce and us moving. Was very hard on her. I still feel bad about that.</p><p></p><p>There are boarding high schools for disturbed teens. I know nothing about them but they are used. You may want to look them up. There is residential treatment too but I would go there last.</p><p></p><p>Love and light. We are here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 735500, member: 1550"] My Daughter, who is 35 and doing amazing now, started drugging at 12. Don't rule that out. MANY drugs don't show up on drug tests!!! The kids know which drugs don't show up. I checked my daughters room and purse and found the evidence then major grounded her and she would sneak out at night. We had to put bars on her bedroom windows and called the cops when we found her with drugs. She was put on parole. Twice. She was put in a hospital. Didn't work. She wouldn't go for counseling. She was not allowed to drive our car when she got older. Not after she destroyed our van. Looking back I didn't know what else we could have done. We are all limited. There was no technology back then to ground her from. We tried to ask the school for help as she cut often. They told us they had 1000 students and couldn't just watch her. Gee, thanks for trying! She was smart so they refused an IEP. All this time she remained loving to us but she was destroying herself. We made her leave at 19. We had little kids to think of. She QUIT meth and cocaine, her two demons! She quit by a year later. She found it hard with no money and got a job and worked in the house she was allowed to stay in as well. She didn't want to be locked out and homeless. She even quit cigarettes. She was allowed to live, after begging, with an older brother who was very strict, more than us and she knew one wrong move was the street. So she.listened to him where she wouldn't to us. He had legal tenants at his house and she had to clean and cook for them all. She did! Your daughter is still very young. Maybe tell her she shapes up or you won't get her a driver's license. Wish I'd thought of that! No cell phone or Internet maybe? We tried homeschooling....that's another option. Helped s tad. Do try to get her to talk to a counselor. Maybe she will. Right now you can only do so much bit this does not mean that she won't see the light, like mine did. Please keep the hope. Meanwhile talk to your younger daughter and make fun time for yourself too. You don't help your daughter by giving up your own life. Is your wife her mom? If not can mom help? Our daughter acted out after a divorce and us moving. Was very hard on her. I still feel bad about that. There are boarding high schools for disturbed teens. I know nothing about them but they are used. You may want to look them up. There is residential treatment too but I would go there last. Love and light. We are here. [/QUOTE]
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