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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 143062" data-attributes="member: 4964">IF &nbsp;If you ignore the psychiatrist's recommendation and keep her home - &nbsp;Ask yourself IF keeping her home up to this point has workedAsk yourself IF your health can weather her intensifying behaviorsAsk yourself IF by keeping her out of placement has helped alreadyAsk yourself IF she can do more things that will embarrass her/youAsk yourself IF she doesn't go how are you equipped to deal with herAsk yourself IF you let her go can you handle the I hate you's vs good mental health for her &nbsp;Ask yourself IF being a Mom and making hard decisions for the welfare of our children absolutely inhales violently - and that answer is yes.&nbsp; &nbsp;The &quot;what&quot; that she has isn't going to go away over night.&nbsp; It's a life-long committment on her part to continually seek services for her anger, her emotions, her good mental health.&nbsp; Mental illness isn't a cureable disease, but it's symptoms can be controlled IF the person with the problem gets help AND participates in wanting to be well. &nbsp;If you send her - will she get better? (((shrug)) that is up to her.&nbsp; Just because she goes does not mean she'll be helped.&nbsp; She has to get tired of being her and want /accept help.&nbsp; Then listen and follow what she's told.&nbsp; &nbsp;If you send her - she could just sit there and do nothing - I know this because my son has been to several since he was 6.&nbsp; None seemed to help at the time, but most have had their advantages of planting seeds of thought in his head for when he matured - the seeds did too. &nbsp;Tough spot - HugsStar</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Star*, post: 143062, member: 4964"] IF If you ignore the psychiatrist's recommendation and keep her home - Ask yourself IF keeping her home up to this point has worked Ask yourself IF your health can weather her intensifying behaviors Ask yourself IF by keeping her out of placement has helped already Ask yourself IF she can do more things that will embarrass her/you Ask yourself IF she doesn't go how are you equipped to deal with her Ask yourself IF you let her go can you handle the I hate you's vs good mental health for her Ask yourself IF being a Mom and making hard decisions for the welfare of our children absolutely inhales violently - and that answer is yes. The "what" that she has isn't going to go away over night. It's a life-long committment on her part to continually seek services for her anger, her emotions, her good mental health. Mental illness isn't a cureable disease, but it's symptoms can be controlled IF the person with the problem gets help AND participates in wanting to be well. If you send her - will she get better? (((shrug)) that is up to her. Just because she goes does not mean she'll be helped. She has to get tired of being her and want /accept help. Then listen and follow what she's told. If you send her - she could just sit there and do nothing - I know this because my son has been to several since he was 6. None seemed to help at the time, but most have had their advantages of planting seeds of thought in his head for when he matured - the seeds did too. Tough spot - Hugs Star [/QUOTE]

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