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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 429851" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Malika, in a different time and place you could very well qualify for a learning disorder. Or possibly a different teaching technique might have helped you. Often as kids we get ideas about what we can or can't do, or sometimes we are slower to pick up a particular subject and once we get the idea we can't do it, we are stuck. I struggled with uni the first time around, I just didn't seem to get it. I tried, I put in every effort, I thought I understood, but I could not get a passing grade. The anxiety it built up in me made the problem worse. I finally dropped out and got a job. Years later after I was married and had kids I went back to uni and sailed through.</p><p></p><p>I only found out a year ago (from another student at the time) that the main reason I did not do well the first time around, was I did not pick up on the signals from the male lecturers and tutors to "put out". But the knock to my confidence then led to me genuinely doing poorly academically. </p><p></p><p>Obviously I'm not saying you did badly in science because you failed to respond to sexual advances! But it is just one example of how sometimes a small, subtle short-term reason can become a much bigger long-term problem.</p><p></p><p>Or it could be a learning problem of some sort. But the knock to the confidence it gives you, the belief that you can't do it, it's not your kind of subject, then becomes a self-fulfillnig prophecy.</p><p></p><p>husband believes he's bad at maths. But he's actually really good. Now. He had some problems at one time, I suspect the teaching method was very rigid.</p><p></p><p>A young friend of mine, she's 12, is absolutely brilliant academically. But back when she was in Grade 2, a teacher repeatedly told the class that they weren't as smart in maths as one boy in the class. She kept praising that boy and putting down all the other kids. She put down my young friend in lots of other ways too, and it took the next few years' hard work to restore the girl's confidence in herself. She still believes she is not good at maths, I have been asked to give her some coaching.</p><p></p><p>It is so easy sometimes to damage a child's self confidence in their abilities.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 429851, member: 1991"] Malika, in a different time and place you could very well qualify for a learning disorder. Or possibly a different teaching technique might have helped you. Often as kids we get ideas about what we can or can't do, or sometimes we are slower to pick up a particular subject and once we get the idea we can't do it, we are stuck. I struggled with uni the first time around, I just didn't seem to get it. I tried, I put in every effort, I thought I understood, but I could not get a passing grade. The anxiety it built up in me made the problem worse. I finally dropped out and got a job. Years later after I was married and had kids I went back to uni and sailed through. I only found out a year ago (from another student at the time) that the main reason I did not do well the first time around, was I did not pick up on the signals from the male lecturers and tutors to "put out". But the knock to my confidence then led to me genuinely doing poorly academically. Obviously I'm not saying you did badly in science because you failed to respond to sexual advances! But it is just one example of how sometimes a small, subtle short-term reason can become a much bigger long-term problem. Or it could be a learning problem of some sort. But the knock to the confidence it gives you, the belief that you can't do it, it's not your kind of subject, then becomes a self-fulfillnig prophecy. husband believes he's bad at maths. But he's actually really good. Now. He had some problems at one time, I suspect the teaching method was very rigid. A young friend of mine, she's 12, is absolutely brilliant academically. But back when she was in Grade 2, a teacher repeatedly told the class that they weren't as smart in maths as one boy in the class. She kept praising that boy and putting down all the other kids. She put down my young friend in lots of other ways too, and it took the next few years' hard work to restore the girl's confidence in herself. She still believes she is not good at maths, I have been asked to give her some coaching. It is so easy sometimes to damage a child's self confidence in their abilities. Marg [/QUOTE]
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