This is my final post on this. Because this is exactly what I said:
"Problem is...honesty here...ODD is a reaction to adults and adult rule. Because your child has ADHD, adults in his life have been innocently making the same mistakes all adults make when dealing with difficult ADHD behaviors - mistakes that cause him to distrust adults. What your child perceives as a "mistake worthy of his distrust" does not register as a mistake to his loving parents, who most often parent as their parents did. Don't blames yourself because your child's slant on this defies common sense... until you truly understand ADHD.
There is no cure for ODD. One can only minimize it. (Did you know that 57-64% of all children with ADHD develop ODD? Only the children with the hyperactive or combined types get it, not the inattentive types. Although one can get ODD without having ADHD.) It can be prevented. Medication only eases it a bit. Because the real problem is your child's opposition to adult rule. ODD is the MOST misunderstood of all childhood disorders."
And now you see why it's also one of the most volatile topics...
Point is, I said adult rule - and never said it was because of parenting at all. Only that to parents, it doesn't make sense. It could be because of a teacher, or a boy scout leader, but ODD is always the child's defense mechanism against adults, underline always underline underline. It is a behavioral problem.
It's a disservice to WID to bicker, and therefore I'll bow out courteously.
Because I have already...
been there done that
