I got lost along the way......
but seems to me I have seen ODD be sometimes not related to a childs behaviors at all but rather an adults mindset?
(does anyone understand what I mean?)
Um um......my son has partial seizures, his teacher insisted it was defiance when he would daydream or not respond.
My dtr had extreme major panic with full blown fight or flight. Her teacher called it defiance when she would not just sit down and shut up. Both school psychologists then tried to put an ODD label on my kids.
It had nothing to do with parenting, and it had nothing to do with rules,
and it had nothing to do with my kids opposing any rules. And for my son it had nothing to do with a psychological issue.
But in the teachers and school psychologists minds, my kids were being defiant. and my dtr was expelled from 7th grade for "insubordination"
(The ODD labels was ultimately removed from my dtrs school records in due process hearing)
ps, it was not a defense mechanism, either. especially not in my son.
