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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 729810" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It sounds like your SS is able to charm the counselors into believing he is not a threat. My oldest did this many times. I truly understand how you feel. My husband kept asking me why I kept disagreeing with the PROFESSIONALS. I kept telling him that my instincts as the mother of both the child who is disturbed and the child the disturbed one is preying on are screaming at me. I also told him that no "professional" spends more time with our kids than I do, so no "professional" has as complete a picture of what is going on as I did. Therefor, my instincts were the ones we were going to rely on. Period.</p><p></p><p>Why not send your stepson to go live with the idiot grandparents? If they want to spoil him so much, let them? Keep his electronics and let them buy new ones. Do NOT let him into your cloud accounts. He likely has uploaded photos of your daughter and her friends there. This is NOT an easy suggestion. It is made to keep your daughter safe. She won't be safe as long as she lives in a house with him. He is a sexual predator. He just is. That is the name for someone who acts the way he does. If he uploads her photos online, it won't matter what is done to him. She will NEVER get her privacy back. She will be violated by hundreds of thousands of people who view and copy and paste and sell and resell her image time and time again. Later, when she wants a job as an adult, anyone who searches her name and image will likely find the images he uploaded of her. Don't think this cannot happen. More and more companies are doing name and image searches to find out what things people have done on social media and on the internet before they are hired. Once your image is out there used like this, you are in a real mess. While a company may be sympathetic that your image was used without your permission, they still probably won't want you representing their company. </p><p></p><p>Do whatever you need to do in order to save your daughter from your stepson. You know what he is like. The counselors and other people are fooled by him. They have five minutes to spend seeing a snapshot of his behavior. Anyone can look good in a snapshot. Looking good for the long run of life is different. We had to have my son live with my parents from the time he was 14. He was too violent to live in the same house with his siblings safely. My parents begged for a chance to get through to him. None of us know how or why it worked, but eventually we all got through it. I don't think you will get to where we are now. My kids are friends now. They care about each other and would do anything for each other. But it wasn't easy to get to here. I don't know if your SS will ever get to here. Especially not with the grandparents interference. I would just let the grandparents have him. Drop him off to them and be done. </p><p></p><p>No, I am not kidding. It would be best for your other kids. It is also probably what SS wants, to a point. Just don't give SS anything electronic that he had in yoru household.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 729810, member: 1233"] It sounds like your SS is able to charm the counselors into believing he is not a threat. My oldest did this many times. I truly understand how you feel. My husband kept asking me why I kept disagreeing with the PROFESSIONALS. I kept telling him that my instincts as the mother of both the child who is disturbed and the child the disturbed one is preying on are screaming at me. I also told him that no "professional" spends more time with our kids than I do, so no "professional" has as complete a picture of what is going on as I did. Therefor, my instincts were the ones we were going to rely on. Period. Why not send your stepson to go live with the idiot grandparents? If they want to spoil him so much, let them? Keep his electronics and let them buy new ones. Do NOT let him into your cloud accounts. He likely has uploaded photos of your daughter and her friends there. This is NOT an easy suggestion. It is made to keep your daughter safe. She won't be safe as long as she lives in a house with him. He is a sexual predator. He just is. That is the name for someone who acts the way he does. If he uploads her photos online, it won't matter what is done to him. She will NEVER get her privacy back. She will be violated by hundreds of thousands of people who view and copy and paste and sell and resell her image time and time again. Later, when she wants a job as an adult, anyone who searches her name and image will likely find the images he uploaded of her. Don't think this cannot happen. More and more companies are doing name and image searches to find out what things people have done on social media and on the internet before they are hired. Once your image is out there used like this, you are in a real mess. While a company may be sympathetic that your image was used without your permission, they still probably won't want you representing their company. Do whatever you need to do in order to save your daughter from your stepson. You know what he is like. The counselors and other people are fooled by him. They have five minutes to spend seeing a snapshot of his behavior. Anyone can look good in a snapshot. Looking good for the long run of life is different. We had to have my son live with my parents from the time he was 14. He was too violent to live in the same house with his siblings safely. My parents begged for a chance to get through to him. None of us know how or why it worked, but eventually we all got through it. I don't think you will get to where we are now. My kids are friends now. They care about each other and would do anything for each other. But it wasn't easy to get to here. I don't know if your SS will ever get to here. Especially not with the grandparents interference. I would just let the grandparents have him. Drop him off to them and be done. No, I am not kidding. It would be best for your other kids. It is also probably what SS wants, to a point. Just don't give SS anything electronic that he had in yoru household. [/QUOTE]
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