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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 737255" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I agree with you and your husband. </p><p></p><p>Allowing your home to be equipped with high tech security/surveillance equipment like a max security prison or warzone i fear would serve only these results:</p><p></p><p>Turn your home into a prison.</p><p></p><p>Frighten your other kids.</p><p></p><p> It would turn them into the guilty parties by subjecting them to monitoring and vigilance.</p><p></p><p>This would be a huge win for stepson. He would game it.</p><p></p><p>Take away any tranquility in your home.</p><p></p><p>Create paranoia.</p><p></p><p>Descend to the pathological state of step son, And normalizing it</p><p></p><p>Victimize your kids.</p><p></p><p>Put your marriage at great risk.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you and your husband are in agreement about this. The idea is beyond crazy. It is cruel and sadistic. And it is crazy.</p><p></p><p>As well as useless. The hope for your stepson is that he learn to identify and control his impulses and behaviors. This has nothing to do with alarms throughout the house. Behavioral modification is one thing. (Although there are better treatments.)Should he be in a treatment environment. What they propose is nuts.</p><p></p><p>If your stepson had victimized another child, outside the home and family, I wonder if the professionals would be so sanguine.</p><p></p><p>But to put a perpetrator back with his victim, to live in intimate contact?</p><p></p><p>Looked at one way, what your mother in law said, though mean, was true: your kids need to be away from him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 737255, member: 18958"] I agree with you and your husband. Allowing your home to be equipped with high tech security/surveillance equipment like a max security prison or warzone i fear would serve only these results: Turn your home into a prison. Frighten your other kids. It would turn them into the guilty parties by subjecting them to monitoring and vigilance. This would be a huge win for stepson. He would game it. Take away any tranquility in your home. Create paranoia. Descend to the pathological state of step son, And normalizing it Victimize your kids. Put your marriage at great risk. I am glad you and your husband are in agreement about this. The idea is beyond crazy. It is cruel and sadistic. And it is crazy. As well as useless. The hope for your stepson is that he learn to identify and control his impulses and behaviors. This has nothing to do with alarms throughout the house. Behavioral modification is one thing. (Although there are better treatments.)Should he be in a treatment environment. What they propose is nuts. If your stepson had victimized another child, outside the home and family, I wonder if the professionals would be so sanguine. But to put a perpetrator back with his victim, to live in intimate contact? Looked at one way, what your mother in law said, though mean, was true: your kids need to be away from him. [/QUOTE]
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