Well Sumsky. That is alot. I am on cell now so my style is cramped.
It sounds like you will just have to keep on keeping on. Like you have been. There was the hope (fantasy??) That this could get easier.
I think you will be reassured when your husband comes home. The hardest thing I think is still protecting your daughter.
The break...is scary...but is not necessaily so. Now is the time to give him tools to handle what's coming. I believe in art therapy, drama therapy, somatic experiencing therapy (for trauma --i am doing it), yoga, meditation. Sports like swimming. Not team or competition. Now. All of these will give him a way to get put of his mind, express and better handle feelings and ground and center himself, apart from a rigid ego.
My parents and sister had personality disorders. Lol. They probably think I do too. Except for my dad they did very well in life. And none had the help of therapy young, and the understanding and support of family.
