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<blockquote data-quote="rlsnights" data-source="post: 425453" data-attributes="member: 7948"><p>I do not care what the "professional" you are seeing says. The behavior you are describing, particularly the self-harm, are NOT normal behavior for a 5 year old.</p><p></p><p>Could his speech problems be part of what's happening? Yes of course. When you can't communicate effectively - no matter how old you are - you get terribly frustrated. I can see a 5 year old getting really mad because of this = but again your description doesn't seem to fit this well.</p><p></p><p>If you have the ability to take a video of him during one of his explosions I would do this and take it to the "psychiatric" you have seen. This person needs a reality check. You can also take pictures of the holes in the wall and the bruises.</p><p></p><p>In fact I would do this for your own protection. If he seriously hurts himself - concussion or breaks a bone - you could easily be charged with child abuse. And the next time he bruises himself by biting himself or if he seems at all hurt by his own actions - I would take him to the pediatrician that day and have them document the injuries and the cause. Maybe the pediatrician will pay attention then. If you can make the video of your son going from fine to raging/banging head/etc. then I would show that to the peds too and repeat your request for help for your son.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Could your father go to the psychiatric appointment with you? Having a second source of info from an adult male - assuming you father will be honest and not "soften" what he says - should stop the psychiatric from dismissing your reports as exaggerations or bad parenting.</p><p></p><p>If this psychiatric still insists your son is only experiencing delays that are within normal limits, you need to find someone else. Preferably a neuropsychologist to do a comprehensive evaluation. This can be expensive - up to $3,000 - and time consuming since it usually involves 10+ hours of assessment. If you don't have this $$ you can try to get it paid for by your health insurance. You will almost certainly need your pediatrician to refer you. </p><p></p><p>In the meantime, get a copy of Ross Greene's The Explosive Child. I think you will find it helpful in the sense that it will give you a different way of thinking about you son's behavior and your response. He describes how to use some tools that may be new to you. Most libraries have it and you can easily get it online in digital format or by mail order.</p><p></p><p>Do not give in to him if at all possible. It will set you all up for worse problems.</p><p></p><p>However - safety is always the bottom line. If you have to give in temporarily in order to keep him or someone else in the house safe then you will have to do that. But only then should he "win". But...</p><p></p><p>If you feel he is a danger to himself or to others I suggest you take him to ER and tell them you want him assessed for psychiatric hospitalization. If he is being too violent to transport then call the police or for an ambulance and tell them you have a child who is hurting himself/others and you need help transporting him to ER.</p><p></p><p>In my humble opinion, a child who is beating his head against a wall and biting himself to the point of bruises during a rage is clearly a child who is in significant physical and emotional distress. This is not a manipulation. It is a call for help.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p></p><p>Patricia</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rlsnights, post: 425453, member: 7948"] I do not care what the "professional" you are seeing says. The behavior you are describing, particularly the self-harm, are NOT normal behavior for a 5 year old. Could his speech problems be part of what's happening? Yes of course. When you can't communicate effectively - no matter how old you are - you get terribly frustrated. I can see a 5 year old getting really mad because of this = but again your description doesn't seem to fit this well. If you have the ability to take a video of him during one of his explosions I would do this and take it to the "psychiatric" you have seen. This person needs a reality check. You can also take pictures of the holes in the wall and the bruises. In fact I would do this for your own protection. If he seriously hurts himself - concussion or breaks a bone - you could easily be charged with child abuse. And the next time he bruises himself by biting himself or if he seems at all hurt by his own actions - I would take him to the pediatrician that day and have them document the injuries and the cause. Maybe the pediatrician will pay attention then. If you can make the video of your son going from fine to raging/banging head/etc. then I would show that to the peds too and repeat your request for help for your son. Could your father go to the psychiatric appointment with you? Having a second source of info from an adult male - assuming you father will be honest and not "soften" what he says - should stop the psychiatric from dismissing your reports as exaggerations or bad parenting. If this psychiatric still insists your son is only experiencing delays that are within normal limits, you need to find someone else. Preferably a neuropsychologist to do a comprehensive evaluation. This can be expensive - up to $3,000 - and time consuming since it usually involves 10+ hours of assessment. If you don't have this $$ you can try to get it paid for by your health insurance. You will almost certainly need your pediatrician to refer you. In the meantime, get a copy of Ross Greene's The Explosive Child. I think you will find it helpful in the sense that it will give you a different way of thinking about you son's behavior and your response. He describes how to use some tools that may be new to you. Most libraries have it and you can easily get it online in digital format or by mail order. Do not give in to him if at all possible. It will set you all up for worse problems. However - safety is always the bottom line. If you have to give in temporarily in order to keep him or someone else in the house safe then you will have to do that. But only then should he "win". But... If you feel he is a danger to himself or to others I suggest you take him to ER and tell them you want him assessed for psychiatric hospitalization. If he is being too violent to transport then call the police or for an ambulance and tell them you have a child who is hurting himself/others and you need help transporting him to ER. In my humble opinion, a child who is beating his head against a wall and biting himself to the point of bruises during a rage is clearly a child who is in significant physical and emotional distress. This is not a manipulation. It is a call for help. Hugs, Patricia [/QUOTE]
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