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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 699046" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>our elder abuse program is about us, not about getting help for young people who abuse us. I know folks who haved used it successfully to stop abuse against them. they are for elders, not nineteen year olds. they would help you get him awayfrom you so that he cant abuse you. Other than that, that is not their job.</p><p></p><p>I know you dont care for my advice, but I am a stark realist. The world is not against your grandson. He is his own enemy and elder care does not find help for nineteen year olds. They protect the elderly, like you and me, from young people who abuse us.</p><p></p><p>Sinse you may feel you need to care for him until you physically cant, there is no help. I would not put up with your grandson, but I am not you and you seem to be eager to continue "helping" him even at your own health and welfare. This is a walk you must take yourself. Some care for 60 year old "children" while in their 80s. They feel they must.You can choose this. It is not wrong. It robs you of your own life though.</p><p></p><p>You and I are not 50. We are not 55. We have to decide (and it is an individual decision) how we will spend the rest of our lives and if we wish to possibly shorten our lives with stress too.</p><p></p><p>Your decision is not right or wrong, but it is unfair to dismiss Elder Abuse because they wouldn't help your nineteen year old grandson. They protect the elderly, not our abusive family members. They probably offered you seperation from grandson...that is what they do. it isnt what you want, but it's their function...</p><p></p><p>At some point, you will no longer be able to help him. At all. We all get there, some sooner than others.</p><p></p><p>Enabling does not help anyone. Hugs snd prayers!! You have a wonderful, kind soul.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 699046, member: 1550"] our elder abuse program is about us, not about getting help for young people who abuse us. I know folks who haved used it successfully to stop abuse against them. they are for elders, not nineteen year olds. they would help you get him awayfrom you so that he cant abuse you. Other than that, that is not their job. I know you dont care for my advice, but I am a stark realist. The world is not against your grandson. He is his own enemy and elder care does not find help for nineteen year olds. They protect the elderly, like you and me, from young people who abuse us. Sinse you may feel you need to care for him until you physically cant, there is no help. I would not put up with your grandson, but I am not you and you seem to be eager to continue "helping" him even at your own health and welfare. This is a walk you must take yourself. Some care for 60 year old "children" while in their 80s. They feel they must.You can choose this. It is not wrong. It robs you of your own life though. You and I are not 50. We are not 55. We have to decide (and it is an individual decision) how we will spend the rest of our lives and if we wish to possibly shorten our lives with stress too. Your decision is not right or wrong, but it is unfair to dismiss Elder Abuse because they wouldn't help your nineteen year old grandson. They protect the elderly, not our abusive family members. They probably offered you seperation from grandson...that is what they do. it isnt what you want, but it's their function... At some point, you will no longer be able to help him. At all. We all get there, some sooner than others. Enabling does not help anyone. Hugs snd prayers!! You have a wonderful, kind soul. [/QUOTE]
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