Hello... I can appreciate your situation. I too have a 20 yr son back living with me. He came home Just Saturday. I told him the rules before coming and he verbally agreed. The I drafted a "House Rules Contract". I have another 19 yr girl living with me too. She had lived with me for a year then moved in with her mom again. Now back, going to college and working. She signed the contract and is doing well. My son however..... well. I am trying to trust his word but he is doing some of the same things as before. He has ADD/ODD no medications anymore. I am wanting to find a way of proving that he is still using. He went out Sat night and did not come home he did tell me where he was going, just not that he was going to stay the night. Then yesterday he went to volunteer at a VFW with his grandma and brother, a term of the contract. After work he told his brother that he was going to help a friend and finish a job he had started Saturday. Which he was paid $20.00 for and gave it to me reluctantly, and per the contract I gave him back $7.00. He did not like the stipulations set in regards to paying Room and Board and Savings... which is 2/3 of everything he makes. Last night he called at 10:30 pm and said he would be home a bit later. He told me where he was. I love the person he was with but she has major pill addiction. Not good not good. I am trying to find out how I can prove he is using. For the first rule is "DRUG FREE a ZERO TOLERANCE RULE" AND WILL RESULT IN INTIMIDATE EVECTION. Through my research I found this site..... I wish you the best of luck as a mom I know this is hard.
So if anyone knows... how I can prove he is using? .... I suspected that he had smoked pot before coming to my home so I know he is dirty. "sigh"
AZ Mom
