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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 253360" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>Welcome! Sorry you had to find us, but you have found a good place. Your son sounds a lot like mine. Mine is home currently after failing out of first year college due to drug and alcohol use. He works two night shifts/week but sleeps all day/stays up all night all the other days too.</p><p></p><p>I don't know whether a conservatorship will be possible when your son doesn't have a mental health diagnosis. However, it's worth checking into. The thing is, you won't be able to force him into treatment. He has to go voluntarily. The court can order treatment programs but if he hasn't been charged with anything you're stuck. If he's doing drugs while living at home, he needs to leave. Most users end up dealing, and if he deals out of your home, your home is at risk legally. </p><p></p><p>I have lived with the fear of my son committing suicide; he's threatened it repeatedly, he cuts and self-harms when angry or upset, etc. It's a horrible feeling. But the longer my son lives with us, the clearer it is that he takes very good care of himself and suicide is not likely, unless as an impulsive act - and that could happen whether he's living at home or not. I've had to resolve not to be swayed by the threats. </p><p></p><p>Since I stopped getting upset at my son's threats, whether of leaving and never speaking to us again, or of harming himself, and stayed emotionally distanced, he has stopped doing it. </p><p></p><p>If you have any younger children at home, please protect them and devote your energy to them. The younger sibs often suffer more than we realize from the tension and drama - let alone more specific harm that can happen. </p><p></p><p>Good luck and keep posting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 253360, member: 2884"] Welcome! Sorry you had to find us, but you have found a good place. Your son sounds a lot like mine. Mine is home currently after failing out of first year college due to drug and alcohol use. He works two night shifts/week but sleeps all day/stays up all night all the other days too. I don't know whether a conservatorship will be possible when your son doesn't have a mental health diagnosis. However, it's worth checking into. The thing is, you won't be able to force him into treatment. He has to go voluntarily. The court can order treatment programs but if he hasn't been charged with anything you're stuck. If he's doing drugs while living at home, he needs to leave. Most users end up dealing, and if he deals out of your home, your home is at risk legally. I have lived with the fear of my son committing suicide; he's threatened it repeatedly, he cuts and self-harms when angry or upset, etc. It's a horrible feeling. But the longer my son lives with us, the clearer it is that he takes very good care of himself and suicide is not likely, unless as an impulsive act - and that could happen whether he's living at home or not. I've had to resolve not to be swayed by the threats. Since I stopped getting upset at my son's threats, whether of leaving and never speaking to us again, or of harming himself, and stayed emotionally distanced, he has stopped doing it. If you have any younger children at home, please protect them and devote your energy to them. The younger sibs often suffer more than we realize from the tension and drama - let alone more specific harm that can happen. Good luck and keep posting. [/QUOTE]
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