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<blockquote data-quote="Dollhouse" data-source="post: 253504"><p><span style="color: blue">Well, it's midnight here on the East Coast and we've already had strife here in the house. My husband and I sat down with my son this evening to address his issues. Of course, my son really acted like it was a joke. We kept our cool and we listened to him, even if what he was saying was irrational.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: blue">We told him we would like to help him get treatment, however, he will no longer be able to use the car until he gets treatment -- consistent treatment with drug testing. He then became agitated. He kept asking for cigarettes and said he would call the center tomorrow if we got him cigarettes. Normally, I would give in and provide a few dollars, but this time, I refused. He kept following me around the house -- trying to bait me with negative behavior (open and closing drawers, pretending to light a piece of paper with his lighter), but I didn't budge.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: blue">I then asked him for the car keys -- he flat out said no. And before you ask, he may have misplaced the extra set when he lost the original set a few months back. In any case, I calmly asked again and he refused -- and then left.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: blue">We didn't know where he was, so my husband called the authorities just to guage what we could do since he wouldn't surrender the keys. They sent out 2 cops and while we were searching for my son, I called him. He was in the parked car in the driveway! The cops calmly went to talk to him and the brought him in the house and he surrendered the keys.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: blue">After the cops left, he stormed out cursing, etc. I called him and he did answer. His main concern was that we called the cops and that we told the cops he has had experience with pot. He was mad that "when he does get his car back, they would target him". Whaat?</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: blue">We gave him about 15mins and we drove out to see if he was nearby. He was -- I'm now nervous because he really has no place to go. His friends are all at college and the two girl friends he does hang out with are not around at present. It's late and I just want him to be safe. What I should have done was called crisis when the cops were here, however, my son wasn't beligerent or acting out.</span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: blue">I can't even sleep....Whomever may read this, so sorry for the long post.</span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: blue">Just pray for us -- I've NEVER had to go thru any of this. It's upsetting and I feel ashamed and just want my son to get help. I know what you are going to say -- HE has to want to get help. I guess I don't see that as a positive option. I can't even pray anymore. Where is God? Why won't he help us or my son?? <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: blue">Good night.</span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Dollhouse, post: 253504"] [COLOR=blue]Well, it's midnight here on the East Coast and we've already had strife here in the house. My husband and I sat down with my son this evening to address his issues. Of course, my son really acted like it was a joke. We kept our cool and we listened to him, even if what he was saying was irrational.[/COLOR] [COLOR=blue] [/COLOR] [COLOR=blue]We told him we would like to help him get treatment, however, he will no longer be able to use the car until he gets treatment -- consistent treatment with drug testing. He then became agitated. He kept asking for cigarettes and said he would call the center tomorrow if we got him cigarettes. Normally, I would give in and provide a few dollars, but this time, I refused. He kept following me around the house -- trying to bait me with negative behavior (open and closing drawers, pretending to light a piece of paper with his lighter), but I didn't budge.[/COLOR] [COLOR=blue] [/COLOR] [COLOR=blue]I then asked him for the car keys -- he flat out said no. And before you ask, he may have misplaced the extra set when he lost the original set a few months back. In any case, I calmly asked again and he refused -- and then left.[/COLOR] [COLOR=blue] [/COLOR] [COLOR=blue]We didn't know where he was, so my husband called the authorities just to guage what we could do since he wouldn't surrender the keys. They sent out 2 cops and while we were searching for my son, I called him. He was in the parked car in the driveway! The cops calmly went to talk to him and the brought him in the house and he surrendered the keys.[/COLOR] [COLOR=blue] [/COLOR] [COLOR=blue]After the cops left, he stormed out cursing, etc. I called him and he did answer. His main concern was that we called the cops and that we told the cops he has had experience with pot. He was mad that "when he does get his car back, they would target him". Whaat?[/COLOR] [COLOR=blue] [/COLOR] [COLOR=blue]We gave him about 15mins and we drove out to see if he was nearby. He was -- I'm now nervous because he really has no place to go. His friends are all at college and the two girl friends he does hang out with are not around at present. It's late and I just want him to be safe. What I should have done was called crisis when the cops were here, however, my son wasn't beligerent or acting out.[/COLOR] [COLOR=blue][/COLOR] [COLOR=blue]I can't even sleep....Whomever may read this, so sorry for the long post.[/COLOR] [COLOR=blue][/COLOR] [COLOR=blue]Just pray for us -- I've NEVER had to go thru any of this. It's upsetting and I feel ashamed and just want my son to get help. I know what you are going to say -- HE has to want to get help. I guess I don't see that as a positive option. I can't even pray anymore. Where is God? Why won't he help us or my son?? :frowny:[/COLOR] [COLOR=blue] [/COLOR] [COLOR=blue]Good night.[/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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