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<blockquote data-quote="Rhonda" data-source="post: 253868" data-attributes="member: 6732"><p>Thanks CJN,</p><p> </p><p>My daughter and I talk. She has an arrest warrant out for her and has been very heavy into drugs. But we do talk. I saw her yesterday for the first time since October. </p><p> </p><p>Maybe you could approach your son from a different angle. Like just tell him that you mean what you said. Don't give the keys back and don't do anything for him anymore period. Just take a break. Don't wash for him. Move his clothes to the side or back in his room. Don't ask him any questions. Leave him alone. Don't tell him when dinner is. Nothing. If you cook and there is enough for him fine if not fine. When you get ready to clean the kitchen dont warn him. Just put everything away and go on with what you need to do. Live like he is not in the house. If he acts out with you, ignore him. Don't tell him how to fix things. Don't tell him what you will do if he does this or that. If he ever does ask politely for something that you are willing to give then do. No fuss. If you are not then say no I can't do that. And smile!</p><p> </p><p>If he accuses you of anything at all then just smile and say "I know" or "its ok that you think that". And let him go.</p><p> </p><p>I know it is a very passive way to handle it. But love is sometimes just there. God doesn't swoop down and fix all our problems. But he is there with us through them. Sometimes that is what we have to do for our children. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs!</p><p>Rhonda</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Rhonda, post: 253868, member: 6732"] Thanks CJN, My daughter and I talk. She has an arrest warrant out for her and has been very heavy into drugs. But we do talk. I saw her yesterday for the first time since October. Maybe you could approach your son from a different angle. Like just tell him that you mean what you said. Don't give the keys back and don't do anything for him anymore period. Just take a break. Don't wash for him. Move his clothes to the side or back in his room. Don't ask him any questions. Leave him alone. Don't tell him when dinner is. Nothing. If you cook and there is enough for him fine if not fine. When you get ready to clean the kitchen dont warn him. Just put everything away and go on with what you need to do. Live like he is not in the house. If he acts out with you, ignore him. Don't tell him how to fix things. Don't tell him what you will do if he does this or that. If he ever does ask politely for something that you are willing to give then do. No fuss. If you are not then say no I can't do that. And smile! If he accuses you of anything at all then just smile and say "I know" or "its ok that you think that". And let him go. I know it is a very passive way to handle it. But love is sometimes just there. God doesn't swoop down and fix all our problems. But he is there with us through them. Sometimes that is what we have to do for our children. Hugs! Rhonda [/QUOTE]
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