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<blockquote data-quote="WannabeAgoodFather" data-source="post: 708380" data-attributes="member: 21165"><p>Another night he came home around 1:30 AM, left the front door unlocked, left the light on and god knows what he was doing that late with whom. My wife and I have passed the stage where we ask questions. A compulsive, pathological liars can't shoot a straight answer, they have to think about it for a second or two, then come up with bogus stories. Maybe mother buys the story but when you start lying, you have to keep lying in order to keep the original lie alive... I was an intelligence officer in the Army so I know about this. Lies will not get you far as you will get caught eventually... He has gone too far... I am not saying anything to the guy, cut my cord with him because I found myself miserable, hating myself and totally unhappy because of him. It's affecting my marriage, my happiness and my relationship with my own son. I have nothing to tell him when he asks me "Dad, would you deal with all these crazy things if I did those? I do not think so... But why do you deal with these non sense?" "This is totally toxic and he(step brother) doesn't do anything, doesn't want to do anything. I can't even have a real conversation with him. He distracts me, talking about stupid things and I just find it ridiculous why you let him go on like this" Then I say "We are a family and I love your step mother. She really loves you as you know and takes a good care of you. You will be heading out to school this Fall so there aren't that much time left so hang in there kiddo" I am afraid that my youngest baby would not come home just like his sister as he sees I deal with non sense and don't do anything about it for his perspective. I am failing in all these areas... I am measuring all the consequences in near future but for now, I could only do so little. I am only 49 years but nothing is going on the right direction. Work, House, Kids, Finance.. everything. It is like no matter what I try to do, I end up facing a wall.. It's time to take a break, not to lose my mind and relax as there are not much I could do in this World right now. Hope things will start to turn around.</p><p></p><p>Good morning friends...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WannabeAgoodFather, post: 708380, member: 21165"] Another night he came home around 1:30 AM, left the front door unlocked, left the light on and god knows what he was doing that late with whom. My wife and I have passed the stage where we ask questions. A compulsive, pathological liars can't shoot a straight answer, they have to think about it for a second or two, then come up with bogus stories. Maybe mother buys the story but when you start lying, you have to keep lying in order to keep the original lie alive... I was an intelligence officer in the Army so I know about this. Lies will not get you far as you will get caught eventually... He has gone too far... I am not saying anything to the guy, cut my cord with him because I found myself miserable, hating myself and totally unhappy because of him. It's affecting my marriage, my happiness and my relationship with my own son. I have nothing to tell him when he asks me "Dad, would you deal with all these crazy things if I did those? I do not think so... But why do you deal with these non sense?" "This is totally toxic and he(step brother) doesn't do anything, doesn't want to do anything. I can't even have a real conversation with him. He distracts me, talking about stupid things and I just find it ridiculous why you let him go on like this" Then I say "We are a family and I love your step mother. She really loves you as you know and takes a good care of you. You will be heading out to school this Fall so there aren't that much time left so hang in there kiddo" I am afraid that my youngest baby would not come home just like his sister as he sees I deal with non sense and don't do anything about it for his perspective. I am failing in all these areas... I am measuring all the consequences in near future but for now, I could only do so little. I am only 49 years but nothing is going on the right direction. Work, House, Kids, Finance.. everything. It is like no matter what I try to do, I end up facing a wall.. It's time to take a break, not to lose my mind and relax as there are not much I could do in this World right now. Hope things will start to turn around. Good morning friends... [/QUOTE]
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