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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 510010" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Crazymama, our difficult child's mattress is on the floor, too, for many of the same reasons, lol!</p><p></p><p>I would actually leave before he falls asleep. Tell him that you are going to leave in X amt of time and that you will be just down the hallway. You need your sleep and you have to tell him that. Also, tell him that you realize that he is having bad dreams but that he has to learn to deal with-them on his own. From now on, you will only come to his aid for a bad dream 2 nights a week, so he has to decide which bad dreams are the worst of all. I would expect him to call you immediately. At that point, tell him that you are happy to comfort him, and that you are now reminding him that he has only one more bad dream coming up where you will join him in his room. That should get him prioritizing. I know that he and you think that he cannot control it, but I will politely differ on that. He's already on medication and you have to come up with-a behavior plan to go with-it. medications cannot do all the work by themselves.</p><p></p><p>by the way, I cuddled with-my son up until he was nearly 14. He especially liked having the weight of one of my legs over his legs or hip. I have since gathered several heavy blankets and put them across his thighs to mimic the effect. Also, I read in one of one of my Aspie books--maybe LOOK ME IN THE EYE by John Elder Robinson--that his wife does the same thing and it's clearly not just a security issue, but a weight issue, like the weighted blankets that are sold nowdays. </p><p></p><p>I don't see an Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) diagnosis on your son's signature, but these things may still be useful.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 510010, member: 3419"] Crazymama, our difficult child's mattress is on the floor, too, for many of the same reasons, lol! I would actually leave before he falls asleep. Tell him that you are going to leave in X amt of time and that you will be just down the hallway. You need your sleep and you have to tell him that. Also, tell him that you realize that he is having bad dreams but that he has to learn to deal with-them on his own. From now on, you will only come to his aid for a bad dream 2 nights a week, so he has to decide which bad dreams are the worst of all. I would expect him to call you immediately. At that point, tell him that you are happy to comfort him, and that you are now reminding him that he has only one more bad dream coming up where you will join him in his room. That should get him prioritizing. I know that he and you think that he cannot control it, but I will politely differ on that. He's already on medication and you have to come up with-a behavior plan to go with-it. medications cannot do all the work by themselves. by the way, I cuddled with-my son up until he was nearly 14. He especially liked having the weight of one of my legs over his legs or hip. I have since gathered several heavy blankets and put them across his thighs to mimic the effect. Also, I read in one of one of my Aspie books--maybe LOOK ME IN THE EYE by John Elder Robinson--that his wife does the same thing and it's clearly not just a security issue, but a weight issue, like the weighted blankets that are sold nowdays. I don't see an Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) diagnosis on your son's signature, but these things may still be useful. [/QUOTE]
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