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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 602943" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi and welcome to the board, although sorry you had to come here.</p><p></p><p>There is nothing you can do to force a 25 year old to do anything, however you can make getting help, a job, and dressing in the morning a condition of living in your home. She is not going to starve herself and she is not a child so you should not be cooking for her or trying to feed her. I suffer from depression, and my parents were not at all sympathetic, which meant I was out of their house and cooking for myself and doing my laundry and getting help because it felt rotten to be depressed and nobody was going to take care of me if I decided not to function. I got married during one of my bad depressions, but I hid it from my husband and after he found out about it, he had no sympathy either. I was on my own.</p><p></p><p>I did end up in the hospital three times, once for ten weeks (before insurance stopped allowing long stays) and I felt it helped me a lot. I got diagnosed (finally) and put on medication and I felt better going out and had some ongoing care. The other two times were for medication adjustments and I felt I got helped all three times. </p><p></p><p>It is no help to your daughter to let her lay in bed and make childish threats while living off your dime and refusing to help herself. And there is only one person in the world that you can control...yourself. Your daughter can be given options and she will make her own decision. I do think she is manipulating you and that you shouldn't pay that much attention to her and give her a list of what you expect of her, depression or not, and going for help should be #1 with at least a part time job and paying some bills #2.</p><p></p><p>I hope you keep posting and update us. You can ask as many questions as you like <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Most of us have been through a lot and many are still going through a lot. Has your daughter ever taken drugs?</p><p></p><p>by the way, you do not get electroshock without hearing about it in detail and consenting. That is not what a psychiatric ward is like at all. They probably wouldn't even admit your daughter as an inpatient. The only way to be admitted is if the person is actively suicidal or homicidal. psychiatric hospitals are nothing like they were in the 1950's and nothing is forced on the patient. It's hard to get admitted, period. I wonder if she's eating when you're asleep.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 602943, member: 1550"] Hi and welcome to the board, although sorry you had to come here. There is nothing you can do to force a 25 year old to do anything, however you can make getting help, a job, and dressing in the morning a condition of living in your home. She is not going to starve herself and she is not a child so you should not be cooking for her or trying to feed her. I suffer from depression, and my parents were not at all sympathetic, which meant I was out of their house and cooking for myself and doing my laundry and getting help because it felt rotten to be depressed and nobody was going to take care of me if I decided not to function. I got married during one of my bad depressions, but I hid it from my husband and after he found out about it, he had no sympathy either. I was on my own. I did end up in the hospital three times, once for ten weeks (before insurance stopped allowing long stays) and I felt it helped me a lot. I got diagnosed (finally) and put on medication and I felt better going out and had some ongoing care. The other two times were for medication adjustments and I felt I got helped all three times. It is no help to your daughter to let her lay in bed and make childish threats while living off your dime and refusing to help herself. And there is only one person in the world that you can control...yourself. Your daughter can be given options and she will make her own decision. I do think she is manipulating you and that you shouldn't pay that much attention to her and give her a list of what you expect of her, depression or not, and going for help should be #1 with at least a part time job and paying some bills #2. I hope you keep posting and update us. You can ask as many questions as you like :) Most of us have been through a lot and many are still going through a lot. Has your daughter ever taken drugs? by the way, you do not get electroshock without hearing about it in detail and consenting. That is not what a psychiatric ward is like at all. They probably wouldn't even admit your daughter as an inpatient. The only way to be admitted is if the person is actively suicidal or homicidal. psychiatric hospitals are nothing like they were in the 1950's and nothing is forced on the patient. It's hard to get admitted, period. I wonder if she's eating when you're asleep. [/QUOTE]
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