Witz your comments were excellent in regards to tough love. Many, many people read the board, many who do not post. I myself, need many many positive shoves in detachment. Posts like yours and Va help shove me in that direction.
That is why this thread should be continued. To help ALL. Not just one. Because, after all, that is what this board is about. Helping ALL. If we were to help just one, than we would email each other privately.
