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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 611243" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Oh my.</p><p>I'm going to guess (just one parent to another) that you have a really <em>really</em> complex kid... the kind that even a pretty comprehensive diagnosis list Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) or Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified doesn't fully cover.</p><p>Some of what you describe - like the "spinning things" being an obsession, and then later violence being an obsession - definitely has shades of Aspergers/Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)/Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified. Kids on the spectrum CAN be "perfect students" - and still be very much on the spectrum. You may need an evaluator who is more familiar with high-IQ, high-functioning cases.</p><p></p><p>I haven't found this documented by researchers yet, but we found that kids can <em>become</em> insecurely attached, at points after age 3. This means that they do not and cannot have a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) diagnosis, as the early years were stable and nurturing, and they did learn how to form fairly secure attachments. But then some extreme life experiences come along and knock them down, stretch and strain their sense of attachment. We had to bring one of our kids back from this.</p><p> </p><p>If he is on the spectrum, then punishment doesn't work. For some spectrumish kids, rewards can have an impact, but they have to be pretty much immediate, as delayed gratification isn't a strong point for these kids. They do thrive on order, consistent rules... but it's hard to add in rules or start enforcing rules, if they have been inconsistently applied in the past. </p><p> </p><p>Have you ever run across the book "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene? We found it helpful in adjusting our thinking about our challenging kids.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 611243, member: 11791"] Oh my. I'm going to guess (just one parent to another) that you have a really [I]really[/I] complex kid... the kind that even a pretty comprehensive diagnosis list Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) or Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified doesn't fully cover. Some of what you describe - like the "spinning things" being an obsession, and then later violence being an obsession - definitely has shades of Aspergers/Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)/Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified. Kids on the spectrum CAN be "perfect students" - and still be very much on the spectrum. You may need an evaluator who is more familiar with high-IQ, high-functioning cases. I haven't found this documented by researchers yet, but we found that kids can [I]become[/I] insecurely attached, at points after age 3. This means that they do not and cannot have a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) diagnosis, as the early years were stable and nurturing, and they did learn how to form fairly secure attachments. But then some extreme life experiences come along and knock them down, stretch and strain their sense of attachment. We had to bring one of our kids back from this. If he is on the spectrum, then punishment doesn't work. For some spectrumish kids, rewards can have an impact, but they have to be pretty much immediate, as delayed gratification isn't a strong point for these kids. They do thrive on order, consistent rules... but it's hard to add in rules or start enforcing rules, if they have been inconsistently applied in the past. Have you ever run across the book "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene? We found it helpful in adjusting our thinking about our challenging kids. [/QUOTE]
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