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<blockquote data-quote="Feeling Sad" data-source="post: 679323" data-attributes="member: 19245"><p>Very well put, Leafy. Most excellent, fellow warrior, Leafy.</p><p></p><p>Copa, you have given him the resources that HE may utilize. It is on him now.</p><p></p><p>I have read on numerous other sites, that when an adult child refuses to see reason and perform the basic fundamentals of life, sometimes the ONLY thing that we as parents can do is take care of OURSELVES.</p><p></p><p>We need to show, by example, what we will or will not tolerate. In fact, we are showing them what society at large will or will not tolerate.</p><p></p><p>You need to heal and support you right now. Do not lose an inch of ground that you have gained in your healing.</p><p></p><p>We, as parents, will not be around forever. What then?</p><p></p><p>If we are mere shadows of our former selves when they do finally rally and their lives fall into the proper places...what then?</p><p></p><p>We need to be strong to show that they too have the ability to be strong. We need to be their role models.</p><p></p><p>I constantly think back to how my beloved son acted, before the ravages of schizophrenia took over. It is always so difficult for me to write this...</p><p></p><p>I think of how he would want me to feel right now. Scared? Anxious? Worried? Tired? Sad? Tearing myself down?</p><p></p><p>No. He would have truly hated any of these realities. We owe it to ourselves AND to our greatly loved Difficult Child's to strive to become our former selves.</p><p></p><p>They need to see and FEEL this reality.</p><p></p><p>Strong individuals that have healthy boundaries. Parents that demand respect.</p><p></p><p>Copa, your armor might have numerous dings and a few deep gouges, but it IS very much intact! </p><p></p><p>You, Copa, ARE very strong! I am very proud of you. Stand your ground, dear sister. </p><p></p><p>Your son has a better chance of improving by not living in your house. Yes, it is probably the most difficult feat to accomplish. Yet, it needs to be done from a place of love...and hope.</p><p></p><p>P.S. I visualize that your are, of course, wearing a lovely, flowing appropriately colored tunic, in line with the ever-slimming 'column dressing', under your armor. Hmmm...perhaps a muted gray to go with your battle-weary armor. One must strive to always look their best, even in battle! (Sorry, a bit of levity always helps me).</p><p></p><p>P.S.S. Pleasant dreams.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Feeling Sad, post: 679323, member: 19245"] Very well put, Leafy. Most excellent, fellow warrior, Leafy. Copa, you have given him the resources that HE may utilize. It is on him now. I have read on numerous other sites, that when an adult child refuses to see reason and perform the basic fundamentals of life, sometimes the ONLY thing that we as parents can do is take care of OURSELVES. We need to show, by example, what we will or will not tolerate. In fact, we are showing them what society at large will or will not tolerate. You need to heal and support you right now. Do not lose an inch of ground that you have gained in your healing. We, as parents, will not be around forever. What then? If we are mere shadows of our former selves when they do finally rally and their lives fall into the proper places...what then? We need to be strong to show that they too have the ability to be strong. We need to be their role models. I constantly think back to how my beloved son acted, before the ravages of schizophrenia took over. It is always so difficult for me to write this... I think of how he would want me to feel right now. Scared? Anxious? Worried? Tired? Sad? Tearing myself down? No. He would have truly hated any of these realities. We owe it to ourselves AND to our greatly loved Difficult Child's to strive to become our former selves. They need to see and FEEL this reality. Strong individuals that have healthy boundaries. Parents that demand respect. Copa, your armor might have numerous dings and a few deep gouges, but it IS very much intact! You, Copa, ARE very strong! I am very proud of you. Stand your ground, dear sister. Your son has a better chance of improving by not living in your house. Yes, it is probably the most difficult feat to accomplish. Yet, it needs to be done from a place of love...and hope. P.S. I visualize that your are, of course, wearing a lovely, flowing appropriately colored tunic, in line with the ever-slimming 'column dressing', under your armor. Hmmm...perhaps a muted gray to go with your battle-weary armor. One must strive to always look their best, even in battle! (Sorry, a bit of levity always helps me). P.S.S. Pleasant dreams. [/QUOTE]
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