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Now that I kicked my 18 year old daughter out, where do I go from here?
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<blockquote data-quote="Cindy Marie" data-source="post: 709841" data-attributes="member: 21540"><p>It has been almost two days since I updated. Tuesday was not so great when my daughter came over. I unleashed a little as I told her I was not her scapegoat. She is going to drop all of her classes the remaining semester. He does not know this as she said to keep that between us--as if I am going to talk to that crazy man. She apparently told him of one class she was dropping on Tuesday and Thursdays as those days she does not pull into our garage. As far as the M/with-F classes, she told me "that was between us." She has come over this week and pulls into our garage on those days. She continues to go back to his house every evening. She continues saying she will talk to me and wants to talk but never does. Yesterday I remained quite until she made one statement about me helping her figure out how to pay her car and setting her account up--her problem anyways--I told her she made her bed, now lie in it. I said you always say you are going to talk but never do--she replied there is not anything to talk about!!! Yet every time she leaves--Tuesday evening she kept writing I will talk tomorrow-but do not yell at me or argue---well I did not respond at all to this and yesterday she left and no more than she said there is nothing to talk about as she was leaving, she text me and said " she was tired of having no one to talk to and that she was annoying." I did ask her why was that?" She then replied that I was being sarcastic..I said no I am not. But I am not begging her to talk--this is ludicrous to keep saying you want to talk and yet turn around and never talk or say there is nothing to talk about.</p><p></p><p>Back to Tuesday- when I told her I was no longer going to be her scapegoat-she said I hated her and to stop making her feel bad and that I do know she loves me. I told her she does not love herself-how could she love me. I also told her I had value, I have feelings, and I was tired of being stomped on, persecuted and yelled at by her. Enough is enough. </p><p></p><p>She continues going to this idiots house. Last night she called me from work saying she was not feeling well. She did not want to tell her boss in fear of getting fired. I told her if she does not feel well, then what good would she be if she gets sick all over the place. This crazy man apparently tells her that in order to miss work or school, you have to be extremely ill-throwing up, fever, etc. We all know he must have awesome work ethics!!! Not!! But she did ask to leave early-only 30 minutes- as she called me back to tell me. She told me she felt like throwing up and that her stomach did not feel well. She is also on her monthly cycle as of Tuesday. She has had some issues with passing out before from her cycle and symptoms as she described. I could only think of her driving and her passing out...but I did not let that consume me as apparently it was not bad enough or she would have come home. I told her that "they" would take her to the doctor should she need to go. She quickly told me I was being sarcastic and that comment was not funny----it was not meant to be funny---I said no I was not as you obviously are going there and so what do you want me to do about it?? She got off the phone as soon as I said this. </p><p>I know that if we did not kick her out, she would be going to his house every night now that she has this car--she would not have an excuse but she also does not need one however, whatever hold he has on her, she obeys. She also has met him every day for lunch-Tuesday she started her monthly and I merely told her to lie down and rest before work--nothing more---but head strong- she left once again to meet him. Again, I want the lines of communication open--they are--she knows she can come home--but she is so miserable looking, defensive at the slightest things and I do not feel the same around her--- She is not herself---Oh yes...she did text that the night before---said she does not know who she is. This is all so crazy and I am continuing to keep my head up and do for me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Cindy Marie, post: 709841, member: 21540"] It has been almost two days since I updated. Tuesday was not so great when my daughter came over. I unleashed a little as I told her I was not her scapegoat. She is going to drop all of her classes the remaining semester. He does not know this as she said to keep that between us--as if I am going to talk to that crazy man. She apparently told him of one class she was dropping on Tuesday and Thursdays as those days she does not pull into our garage. As far as the M/with-F classes, she told me "that was between us." She has come over this week and pulls into our garage on those days. She continues to go back to his house every evening. She continues saying she will talk to me and wants to talk but never does. Yesterday I remained quite until she made one statement about me helping her figure out how to pay her car and setting her account up--her problem anyways--I told her she made her bed, now lie in it. I said you always say you are going to talk but never do--she replied there is not anything to talk about!!! Yet every time she leaves--Tuesday evening she kept writing I will talk tomorrow-but do not yell at me or argue---well I did not respond at all to this and yesterday she left and no more than she said there is nothing to talk about as she was leaving, she text me and said " she was tired of having no one to talk to and that she was annoying." I did ask her why was that?" She then replied that I was being sarcastic..I said no I am not. But I am not begging her to talk--this is ludicrous to keep saying you want to talk and yet turn around and never talk or say there is nothing to talk about. Back to Tuesday- when I told her I was no longer going to be her scapegoat-she said I hated her and to stop making her feel bad and that I do know she loves me. I told her she does not love herself-how could she love me. I also told her I had value, I have feelings, and I was tired of being stomped on, persecuted and yelled at by her. Enough is enough. She continues going to this idiots house. Last night she called me from work saying she was not feeling well. She did not want to tell her boss in fear of getting fired. I told her if she does not feel well, then what good would she be if she gets sick all over the place. This crazy man apparently tells her that in order to miss work or school, you have to be extremely ill-throwing up, fever, etc. We all know he must have awesome work ethics!!! Not!! But she did ask to leave early-only 30 minutes- as she called me back to tell me. She told me she felt like throwing up and that her stomach did not feel well. She is also on her monthly cycle as of Tuesday. She has had some issues with passing out before from her cycle and symptoms as she described. I could only think of her driving and her passing out...but I did not let that consume me as apparently it was not bad enough or she would have come home. I told her that "they" would take her to the doctor should she need to go. She quickly told me I was being sarcastic and that comment was not funny----it was not meant to be funny---I said no I was not as you obviously are going there and so what do you want me to do about it?? She got off the phone as soon as I said this. I know that if we did not kick her out, she would be going to his house every night now that she has this car--she would not have an excuse but she also does not need one however, whatever hold he has on her, she obeys. She also has met him every day for lunch-Tuesday she started her monthly and I merely told her to lie down and rest before work--nothing more---but head strong- she left once again to meet him. Again, I want the lines of communication open--they are--she knows she can come home--but she is so miserable looking, defensive at the slightest things and I do not feel the same around her--- She is not herself---Oh yes...she did text that the night before---said she does not know who she is. This is all so crazy and I am continuing to keep my head up and do for me. [/QUOTE]
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