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Now that I kicked my 18 year old daughter out, where do I go from here?
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<blockquote data-quote="Cindy Marie" data-source="post: 711200" data-attributes="member: 21540"><p>Well a few weeks have passed since I last wrote about my daughter. Unfortunately, nothing has improved since then. I continue to pray and keep my faith. She continued to come over on her "school days" which as we know she dropped out completely this semester, but informed me yesterday that school is out for the year. Every day since last Thursday she said she would come over but has not. I learned that this car she has was driven by this lovely man she is with on Thursday to his work to save on gas as his SUV is a gas guzzler but we know this is not the case because he left her at his house where she continues to live so she would not go anywhere. This is not the first time. When I confronted her with it, she initially denied it and said he did not get paid until the following day and did not have gas in his SUV. She continues blaming me for kicking her out, continues to write her woe is me texts--how she wishes I never kicked her out, she is unhappy, she wants to be home but then said if I wanted her here, I should not have kicked her out. Throughout the past several weeks, she throws in that she can not deal with the anger and when I asked her why she did not visit the following day-Friday-she said "you know why." She sends some pics occasionally of herself and does she ever look so miserable, which she also continues to write. So yesterday she said the reason for her unhappy texts and misery, is this car she got into. She knew she could not afford the payments without quitting school and has continued to ask me to help her with car insurance-to call other companies as well as help her with the payment that would be less than the $300 per month she is having to pay. I will never help as long as she is in this situation and his name is on the vehicle. Her first car payment was due this past Friday and she said in her words "That payment isnt due till today ok so we just paid it and it isn't withdrawing till tomorrow and he's pissed about it." I mean I'm tired of him getting pissed at me. I can't talk to him without him yelling or getting mad." " I just wish I never got the car." Then she proceeded on to say she was too young for all of this and wishes she was home with me and she is tired of this living and wanna come back as she misses me. She then said "I love you more than anything, I just hate living this life."</p><p></p><p>But yesterday I spoke with her on the phone, and she said she could not talk long as his cousins were there and I asked her why the continued texts like the comments above to me and she said it was only because of the car--her unhappiness. I then asked her what was the reason before the car-her unhappiness and she said there was none. Really?? Before this crazy man surfaced, her attitude and demeanor had diminished horribly and I could not handle the disrespect any longer. My other daughter told me once again the week before last, my daughter called her up crying about his controlling ways. I see it in her and know without a doubt and her not even saying one word-the misery shows in her eyes and face. </p><p></p><p>I have tried to put my phone aside and not respond as often to her texts and she then accuses me of ignoring her. She also writes how she wishes we could do things more often as a family but I would like to know when as she can not come over unless she tries to bring him and we do not want him here. She denies she is afraid of him but I know I am. I know he is an angry man just by looking at him. It is just heartbreaking what she is doing and putting us through. </p><p>Her sister told her that she would not be able to come home when the moment comes that he or she breaks it off. She said she was not worried about that right now...He has been following her for almost 5 years...The lies she has told and living will eventually catch up to her--but remember she said it is just the car...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Cindy Marie, post: 711200, member: 21540"] Well a few weeks have passed since I last wrote about my daughter. Unfortunately, nothing has improved since then. I continue to pray and keep my faith. She continued to come over on her "school days" which as we know she dropped out completely this semester, but informed me yesterday that school is out for the year. Every day since last Thursday she said she would come over but has not. I learned that this car she has was driven by this lovely man she is with on Thursday to his work to save on gas as his SUV is a gas guzzler but we know this is not the case because he left her at his house where she continues to live so she would not go anywhere. This is not the first time. When I confronted her with it, she initially denied it and said he did not get paid until the following day and did not have gas in his SUV. She continues blaming me for kicking her out, continues to write her woe is me texts--how she wishes I never kicked her out, she is unhappy, she wants to be home but then said if I wanted her here, I should not have kicked her out. Throughout the past several weeks, she throws in that she can not deal with the anger and when I asked her why she did not visit the following day-Friday-she said "you know why." She sends some pics occasionally of herself and does she ever look so miserable, which she also continues to write. So yesterday she said the reason for her unhappy texts and misery, is this car she got into. She knew she could not afford the payments without quitting school and has continued to ask me to help her with car insurance-to call other companies as well as help her with the payment that would be less than the $300 per month she is having to pay. I will never help as long as she is in this situation and his name is on the vehicle. Her first car payment was due this past Friday and she said in her words "That payment isnt due till today ok so we just paid it and it isn't withdrawing till tomorrow and he's pissed about it." I mean I'm tired of him getting pissed at me. I can't talk to him without him yelling or getting mad." " I just wish I never got the car." Then she proceeded on to say she was too young for all of this and wishes she was home with me and she is tired of this living and wanna come back as she misses me. She then said "I love you more than anything, I just hate living this life." But yesterday I spoke with her on the phone, and she said she could not talk long as his cousins were there and I asked her why the continued texts like the comments above to me and she said it was only because of the car--her unhappiness. I then asked her what was the reason before the car-her unhappiness and she said there was none. Really?? Before this crazy man surfaced, her attitude and demeanor had diminished horribly and I could not handle the disrespect any longer. My other daughter told me once again the week before last, my daughter called her up crying about his controlling ways. I see it in her and know without a doubt and her not even saying one word-the misery shows in her eyes and face. I have tried to put my phone aside and not respond as often to her texts and she then accuses me of ignoring her. She also writes how she wishes we could do things more often as a family but I would like to know when as she can not come over unless she tries to bring him and we do not want him here. She denies she is afraid of him but I know I am. I know he is an angry man just by looking at him. It is just heartbreaking what she is doing and putting us through. Her sister told her that she would not be able to come home when the moment comes that he or she breaks it off. She said she was not worried about that right now...He has been following her for almost 5 years...The lies she has told and living will eventually catch up to her--but remember she said it is just the car... [/QUOTE]
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