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Now that I kicked my 18 year old daughter out, where do I go from here?
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<blockquote data-quote="pigless in VA" data-source="post: 711261" data-attributes="member: 11832"><p>Cindy Marie,</p><p></p><p>So as a good friend who put it, I was in an abusive relationship dog's years ago. In my youth, I began dating a guy who I now call the junkman (collected all manner of broken down vehicles). I ended up marrying him. He was basically someone who would just not go away. I know now that behavior is what leads to stalking. I didn't fully understand the concept then. </p><p></p><p>I married him for two reasons: 1 no one in my family ever said a word about what a complete <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" />hole he was. 2 he needed to be on my medical insurance. That's it. I knew I didn't love him. I just didn't believe that I could ever do any better. </p><p></p><p>Here's where you come in. The one thing that you can do for your daughter is to let her know her value and her worth. If she ever divulges negative things about this dude, don't bad mouth him. Just tell her simply that she deserves better treatment. It may take her a long time to recognize that this is not a good choice. It took me years. </p><p></p><p>Once I realized that I needed to leave, it took even longer to screw up the courage to make the move. I knew he was probably going to try to kill me. I planned for 6 months before I left. When I moved out, I moved everything in only a few hours. It took the junkman 3 days to find me. It took me another 6 months to finish breaking it off with him. He simply would not take "no" for an answer. He thought he owned me. I am still very careful not to allow information about me to leak its way back to him. Even after 20 years of being away, he tried to contact me a few years ago.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pigless in VA, post: 711261, member: 11832"] Cindy Marie, So as a good friend who put it, I was in an abusive relationship dog's years ago. In my youth, I began dating a guy who I now call the junkman (collected all manner of broken down vehicles). I ended up marrying him. He was basically someone who would just not go away. I know now that behavior is what leads to stalking. I didn't fully understand the concept then. I married him for two reasons: 1 no one in my family ever said a word about what a complete :censored2:hole he was. 2 he needed to be on my medical insurance. That's it. I knew I didn't love him. I just didn't believe that I could ever do any better. Here's where you come in. The one thing that you can do for your daughter is to let her know her value and her worth. If she ever divulges negative things about this dude, don't bad mouth him. Just tell her simply that she deserves better treatment. It may take her a long time to recognize that this is not a good choice. It took me years. Once I realized that I needed to leave, it took even longer to screw up the courage to make the move. I knew he was probably going to try to kill me. I planned for 6 months before I left. When I moved out, I moved everything in only a few hours. It took the junkman 3 days to find me. It took me another 6 months to finish breaking it off with him. He simply would not take "no" for an answer. He thought he owned me. I am still very careful not to allow information about me to leak its way back to him. Even after 20 years of being away, he tried to contact me a few years ago. [/QUOTE]
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