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Now that my disabled children have been raised, my oldest has questions about the child that *SHE* is raising.
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<blockquote data-quote="TerriH" data-source="post: 758947" data-attributes="member: 298"><p>Thank you, I have passed those sites on to my daughter.</p><p></p><p>My daughter is 27, and I am pretty sure she knows the risks. She has been working closely with this girl's case worker, and he appears to be pretty good. HE has approved of everything my daughter has done.</p><p></p><p>There is very little legal risk as the girl is now 20, even though she functions at a much lower level. She was living with her Mom, but her Mom let her cross state lines with a known predator who has charges pending against him because she trusted the man. And, in spite of this girl being almost illiterate she was given a High School Diploma, which s a shame but that is what the situation is. If she had not had that diploma my daughter could have gotten help from the schools because she is less than 21: as it is there is a retired teacher in my Son-in-Law's family and they have been relying on her for educational advice.</p><p></p><p>Yes, we do live in the USA.</p><p></p><p>Lastly, the girls old case worker, the one she had when she was living in another state, has been removed from being a case worker and has been reassigned to straight secretarial work as she had ignored many, many red flags and basically not done her job. My daughter has been told that Social Services will probably sue her birth parents for fraud, but not until the courts open up for non-urgent matters. My daughter has also been told that this does NOT involve either her or the girl: this is between Social Services and her Mother. The girl's Mom was her Rep Payee, and as such she is responsible to the government for how the money was spent.</p><p></p><p>For those who do not know what a Rep Payee does, I am a Rep Payee for my younger child. As such his disability check is sent to me and I then make certain his bills are paid. I take the money left after his bills are paid and I put a set amount into savings toward unexpected expenses and I give him the rest and help him shop for clothes and other needed things. Anything left from that goes into his pocket. I keep all of the receipts BECAUSE I AM RESPONSIBLE TO THE GOVERNMENT to show that the money was spent on his expenses. And, just as I am responsible as a Rep PAyee to the government for his disability checks, so is this girl's Mom responsible to the government because she was her daughter's Rep Payee</p><p></p><p>My daughter is 27 and this girl is 20 and acts like she is 15 or so. My daughter had cared for her for a year, now, and regards her as her adopted daughter. While this is a bit unusual, both of my kids are adopted so perhaps for her this is less of a stretch</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerriH, post: 758947, member: 298"] Thank you, I have passed those sites on to my daughter. My daughter is 27, and I am pretty sure she knows the risks. She has been working closely with this girl's case worker, and he appears to be pretty good. HE has approved of everything my daughter has done. There is very little legal risk as the girl is now 20, even though she functions at a much lower level. She was living with her Mom, but her Mom let her cross state lines with a known predator who has charges pending against him because she trusted the man. And, in spite of this girl being almost illiterate she was given a High School Diploma, which s a shame but that is what the situation is. If she had not had that diploma my daughter could have gotten help from the schools because she is less than 21: as it is there is a retired teacher in my Son-in-Law's family and they have been relying on her for educational advice. Yes, we do live in the USA. Lastly, the girls old case worker, the one she had when she was living in another state, has been removed from being a case worker and has been reassigned to straight secretarial work as she had ignored many, many red flags and basically not done her job. My daughter has been told that Social Services will probably sue her birth parents for fraud, but not until the courts open up for non-urgent matters. My daughter has also been told that this does NOT involve either her or the girl: this is between Social Services and her Mother. The girl's Mom was her Rep Payee, and as such she is responsible to the government for how the money was spent. For those who do not know what a Rep Payee does, I am a Rep Payee for my younger child. As such his disability check is sent to me and I then make certain his bills are paid. I take the money left after his bills are paid and I put a set amount into savings toward unexpected expenses and I give him the rest and help him shop for clothes and other needed things. Anything left from that goes into his pocket. I keep all of the receipts BECAUSE I AM RESPONSIBLE TO THE GOVERNMENT to show that the money was spent on his expenses. And, just as I am responsible as a Rep PAyee to the government for his disability checks, so is this girl's Mom responsible to the government because she was her daughter's Rep Payee My daughter is 27 and this girl is 20 and acts like she is 15 or so. My daughter had cared for her for a year, now, and regards her as her adopted daughter. While this is a bit unusual, both of my kids are adopted so perhaps for her this is less of a stretch [/QUOTE]
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