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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 764024" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>What the others have said is excellent.</p><p></p><p>Some misc thoughts I had was to have your son make restitution to the clients he stole from. If he can’t, of course, you must. Perhaps garnish his wages until he pays you back in that case.</p><p></p><p>IF you give him another (final) chance to continue working for you…to consider might be restricting contact with clients (if at all possible).</p><p></p><p>Consider letting him know, perhaps formally in writing, if he is caught stealing from the business or a client, you will not only call the police , but immediately terminate his employment.</p><p></p><p>(If you don’t want to press charges…at least terminate his employment…I DO believe there needs to be fast consequences to this behavior. It can’t continue)</p><p></p><p> However, you need to stick to it. This must be a real thing that really happens should he steal again. Logical consequences. Enough.</p><p></p><p>You can insist he go to a program or therapy in order to stay at your place of business…but I suspect this would have limited success.</p><p></p><p>Bottom line is he very likely needs to feel the consequences of his actions.</p><p></p><p>IF he messes up repeated extra chances amd continues to falter, it’s a sad and hard lesson for all…but perhaps an important lesson for the grandson. A sorrowful one…but an important one and in the end…perhaps a good one.</p><p></p><p>Consider support for YOU. Families Anonymous is a helpful group. But there are others. And private therapy, even if it’s short term, can be a balm.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 764024, member: 4152"] What the others have said is excellent. Some misc thoughts I had was to have your son make restitution to the clients he stole from. If he can’t, of course, you must. Perhaps garnish his wages until he pays you back in that case. IF you give him another (final) chance to continue working for you…to consider might be restricting contact with clients (if at all possible). Consider letting him know, perhaps formally in writing, if he is caught stealing from the business or a client, you will not only call the police , but immediately terminate his employment. (If you don’t want to press charges…at least terminate his employment…I DO believe there needs to be fast consequences to this behavior. It can’t continue) However, you need to stick to it. This must be a real thing that really happens should he steal again. Logical consequences. Enough. You can insist he go to a program or therapy in order to stay at your place of business…but I suspect this would have limited success. Bottom line is he very likely needs to feel the consequences of his actions. IF he messes up repeated extra chances amd continues to falter, it’s a sad and hard lesson for all…but perhaps an important lesson for the grandson. A sorrowful one…but an important one and in the end…perhaps a good one. Consider support for YOU. Families Anonymous is a helpful group. But there are others. And private therapy, even if it’s short term, can be a balm. [/QUOTE]
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