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<blockquote data-quote="CAmom" data-source="post: 38398" data-attributes="member: 1835"><p>As Karen said, you can still take everything away--this is what our therapist meant by "give him nothing and let him go." We, also, in CA couldn't lock our doors against our son as he was only 16--almost 17--at the time. </p><p></p><p>However, there were many situations (refusing to get up for school, obviously "high," staying out later than curfew, etc.) in which he broke the law which would have allowed us to call our local police (six officers in a 1500 person community who are very tuned into the kids personally and would have been happy to help), but we didn't take that opportunity, mainly because we were afraid that doing so would irrevocably damage our relationship with our son. Of course, he was very well aware of this and used it against us quite cheerfully.</p><p></p><p>Instead, we basically did nothing but lecture, negotiate, plead, etc., all of which he earnestly agreeed to or with and then went out and kept doing what he was doing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CAmom, post: 38398, member: 1835"] As Karen said, you can still take everything away--this is what our therapist meant by "give him nothing and let him go." We, also, in CA couldn't lock our doors against our son as he was only 16--almost 17--at the time. However, there were many situations (refusing to get up for school, obviously "high," staying out later than curfew, etc.) in which he broke the law which would have allowed us to call our local police (six officers in a 1500 person community who are very tuned into the kids personally and would have been happy to help), but we didn't take that opportunity, mainly because we were afraid that doing so would irrevocably damage our relationship with our son. Of course, he was very well aware of this and used it against us quite cheerfully. Instead, we basically did nothing but lecture, negotiate, plead, etc., all of which he earnestly agreeed to or with and then went out and kept doing what he was doing. [/QUOTE]
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