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<blockquote data-quote="KFld" data-source="post: 38412" data-attributes="member: 2442"><p>That is a tough one Mikey, but I do know where you are coming from. I would hate to see him not graduate, but I would also hate to see anything worse happen to him, due to his behavior, before then also. One thing you have to remember is, you are not sabotaging anything. He is making these choices on his own. I was fortunate that my son just finished school and graduated before the you know what hit the fan in our house. The only thing it did sabotage was that we had gotten him to sign up for some non credit courses at a local community college because he wanted to start his own commercial cleaning business at the time. His alternative ed. school, since he had all his credits, was actually the one who made this an agreement for him to be finished with school in January. They were going to make him come the rest of the year and take nonsense classes, unless he signed up for some business classes at the community college, which he did. He was halfway through the classes when we first hit him with the drug testing which we foolishly decided to do on a day that he was supposed to go to class, just a few hours before. He could only miss 2 classes and had already missed one. Well of course because we made him angry and we were accusing him of using heroin and demanded he let us drug test him, he took off and didn't go to class. It bothered me at first, but in the end he was a heroin addict and the most important thing ended up being getting him into treatment and the class became the least of our worries. If he hadn't gotten treatment when he did, he might not even be alive, never mind owning his own cleaning business. </p><p></p><p>You and your wife need to prioritize and be comfortable with whatever you choose to do. Nobody can make these choices for you. I know there are many parents here who's children did not graduate because of the choices they made, and some have gone onto later continue their education and get their highschool diplomas. </p><p></p><p>You could wait it out if you feel graduation is the utmost importance, but you have to be prepared to face anything else that could happen in the meantime that could be prevented with some type of intervention. You two have to come up with a plan and stick with it and don't beat yourselves up if it doesn't go the way you thought it would. Follow your hearts and do what you feel is best for your family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KFld, post: 38412, member: 2442"] That is a tough one Mikey, but I do know where you are coming from. I would hate to see him not graduate, but I would also hate to see anything worse happen to him, due to his behavior, before then also. One thing you have to remember is, you are not sabotaging anything. He is making these choices on his own. I was fortunate that my son just finished school and graduated before the you know what hit the fan in our house. The only thing it did sabotage was that we had gotten him to sign up for some non credit courses at a local community college because he wanted to start his own commercial cleaning business at the time. His alternative ed. school, since he had all his credits, was actually the one who made this an agreement for him to be finished with school in January. They were going to make him come the rest of the year and take nonsense classes, unless he signed up for some business classes at the community college, which he did. He was halfway through the classes when we first hit him with the drug testing which we foolishly decided to do on a day that he was supposed to go to class, just a few hours before. He could only miss 2 classes and had already missed one. Well of course because we made him angry and we were accusing him of using heroin and demanded he let us drug test him, he took off and didn't go to class. It bothered me at first, but in the end he was a heroin addict and the most important thing ended up being getting him into treatment and the class became the least of our worries. If he hadn't gotten treatment when he did, he might not even be alive, never mind owning his own cleaning business. You and your wife need to prioritize and be comfortable with whatever you choose to do. Nobody can make these choices for you. I know there are many parents here who's children did not graduate because of the choices they made, and some have gone onto later continue their education and get their highschool diplomas. You could wait it out if you feel graduation is the utmost importance, but you have to be prepared to face anything else that could happen in the meantime that could be prevented with some type of intervention. You two have to come up with a plan and stick with it and don't beat yourselves up if it doesn't go the way you thought it would. Follow your hearts and do what you feel is best for your family. [/QUOTE]
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