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<blockquote data-quote="mom_in_training" data-source="post: 38438" data-attributes="member: 2727"><p>" So am I a horrible parent for sometimes wishing he'd get pulled over with a bag of weed on his front seat?"</p><p></p><p>No!!!!! Wishing that does not make you a horrible parent, Actually that would be the desire of a loving and caring parent that wants so badly to save their difficult child. Its just a way to assure that he will be forced into getting the help that he needs at the hands of the authority figures is all.</p><p>I went through the same thing with my difficult child but my difficult child went from pot to heavier drugs. I too was hoping that she would get caught by the police with the hope that she had tons of illegal drugs on her. If this would have been the desperately needed wake-up call for her then so be it, It could very well be the one thing that saves her life. We as parents do not have the power to change our difficult children thinking, All we can do is guide them and provide the tools that can aid in guiding them towards the right path and even that comes with no guarantees. Its all a matter of people regardless of who they are realizing that they have a problem and comes to the conclusion that what they are doing is not working and decides to do something different. Nobody has the power to change another person regardless of who they are. Ultimately it will be your difficult children choice to change his ways. I have no answers as far as when you need to really lay the law down,(Tough Love). Its a matter of what you and wife are comfortable with but if it were me having to do it all over again, I would do it just the same as I had in the past letting go of the thoughts of "Oh she is doing so good in this or that and I don't want to <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> that up for her". Hellllooooo, Drugs are illegal and its their choice not yours. Drug use is not acceptable period in my household and I chose to not protect her from the natural consequences of her bad choices from occuring. I randomly drug tested my difficult child, I would search her room, I would call the police if I had found drugs on her or in her room, I would call the police if she were out past her curfew. It just gos on and on, All I know is that I did not raise her up to become the person she is today and I will not take responsiblity for her bad choices. I did what any loving and caring parent should do, Provide all of the necessary tools along with my support in the hopes that she would grasp on and become a decent human being.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom_in_training, post: 38438, member: 2727"] " So am I a horrible parent for sometimes wishing he'd get pulled over with a bag of weed on his front seat?" No!!!!! Wishing that does not make you a horrible parent, Actually that would be the desire of a loving and caring parent that wants so badly to save their difficult child. Its just a way to assure that he will be forced into getting the help that he needs at the hands of the authority figures is all. I went through the same thing with my difficult child but my difficult child went from pot to heavier drugs. I too was hoping that she would get caught by the police with the hope that she had tons of illegal drugs on her. If this would have been the desperately needed wake-up call for her then so be it, It could very well be the one thing that saves her life. We as parents do not have the power to change our difficult children thinking, All we can do is guide them and provide the tools that can aid in guiding them towards the right path and even that comes with no guarantees. Its all a matter of people regardless of who they are realizing that they have a problem and comes to the conclusion that what they are doing is not working and decides to do something different. Nobody has the power to change another person regardless of who they are. Ultimately it will be your difficult children choice to change his ways. I have no answers as far as when you need to really lay the law down,(Tough Love). Its a matter of what you and wife are comfortable with but if it were me having to do it all over again, I would do it just the same as I had in the past letting go of the thoughts of "Oh she is doing so good in this or that and I don't want to :censored: that up for her". Hellllooooo, Drugs are illegal and its their choice not yours. Drug use is not acceptable period in my household and I chose to not protect her from the natural consequences of her bad choices from occuring. I randomly drug tested my difficult child, I would search her room, I would call the police if I had found drugs on her or in her room, I would call the police if she were out past her curfew. It just gos on and on, All I know is that I did not raise her up to become the person she is today and I will not take responsiblity for her bad choices. I did what any loving and caring parent should do, Provide all of the necessary tools along with my support in the hopes that she would grasp on and become a decent human being. [/QUOTE]
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