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<blockquote data-quote="mom_in_training" data-source="post: 38908" data-attributes="member: 2727"><p>A normal scenarial would be that if your difficult child was smoking pot that he or she would be trying to cover it up. Sure many parents will suspect that their difficult child is smoking pot and many parents end up finding the evidence and then follow through with their plan of intervention but the arrogance of any 17 year old blatenly putting it in the parents face in their own home shows nothing but lack of respect. He is doing it because he is getting away with it. Gee I wonder if his druggy friends are wishing that they had parents that they can train to accomidate their illegal deeds. </p><p></p><p>Ca mom talk about judgement day, Yikes!!</p><p>"And, as Deb said, and I've mentioned a couple of times, when we stood before a judge and offered up what we felt were reasonable explanations about why we, knowing that our son had a drug problem and was breaking the law on a daily basis, basically did nothing, he was removed from our home." </p><p></p><p>Mikey, You have to ask yourself if the therapist would be willing to go before a judge and explain away her reasoning for not taking his pot use seriously along with not giving the appropriate guidance about the illegal drug use period. I have always thought that some therapists will just prolong issues intentually to keep the client coming back to keep filling their pockets with dollars. I have always had that thought about this therapist that you mention. You may have seen some improvements with your difficult child but really this therapist is not god and if anything the fact that she is not doing anything about the pot use is not helping matters at all, If anything I think its making it worse and that she is hindering what you should be doing as his parent. Shes doing just enough to keep you sufficed in your own mind (She is the therapist and obviously good at stringing things along) and keeps you coming back for whatever guidence that she is giving to you which I will never agree with. That really bothers me!! I have to wonder, With her knowing about the illegal pot use, Is she not obligated by law to report it? Of course we all know that if a minor even states that their parent touched them in an abusive way the therapist has to by law report it. Hmmmm, I wonder about that. Mikey, What do you want to bet that the therapist will not want anything to do with going before a judge in defense of her client knowing that illegal drug use has been ongoing but yet has done nothing about it. Whatever accomplishments that have been made would be thrown by the wayside and all that will be heard is the fact that this minor has been allowed to use illegal drugs outside of home as well as in the home (Even though you don't want it) You will be the one that ultimately will have to face a judge. Just a thought..... I'll tell ya Mikey many of us hear have dealt with our difficult children starting with just simple pot use that leads to Cocaine, Heroin, Meth and some parents here at CD have lost their child forever due to drugs. Its scarey to be a parent that finds themselves having to deal with their own child becoming a addict. I know all of what everyone is saying is allot to digest and I hope that just one little tiny thing that someone says here at CD makes you go AWW-HAW now I get it. We are on your side Mikey and considering that many here have been there done that want so desperately to guide you by sharing what we went through along with what we had to do to save our children from ruin.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom_in_training, post: 38908, member: 2727"] A normal scenarial would be that if your difficult child was smoking pot that he or she would be trying to cover it up. Sure many parents will suspect that their difficult child is smoking pot and many parents end up finding the evidence and then follow through with their plan of intervention but the arrogance of any 17 year old blatenly putting it in the parents face in their own home shows nothing but lack of respect. He is doing it because he is getting away with it. Gee I wonder if his druggy friends are wishing that they had parents that they can train to accomidate their illegal deeds. Ca mom talk about judgement day, Yikes!! "And, as Deb said, and I've mentioned a couple of times, when we stood before a judge and offered up what we felt were reasonable explanations about why we, knowing that our son had a drug problem and was breaking the law on a daily basis, basically did nothing, he was removed from our home." Mikey, You have to ask yourself if the therapist would be willing to go before a judge and explain away her reasoning for not taking his pot use seriously along with not giving the appropriate guidance about the illegal drug use period. I have always thought that some therapists will just prolong issues intentually to keep the client coming back to keep filling their pockets with dollars. I have always had that thought about this therapist that you mention. You may have seen some improvements with your difficult child but really this therapist is not god and if anything the fact that she is not doing anything about the pot use is not helping matters at all, If anything I think its making it worse and that she is hindering what you should be doing as his parent. Shes doing just enough to keep you sufficed in your own mind (She is the therapist and obviously good at stringing things along) and keeps you coming back for whatever guidence that she is giving to you which I will never agree with. That really bothers me!! I have to wonder, With her knowing about the illegal pot use, Is she not obligated by law to report it? Of course we all know that if a minor even states that their parent touched them in an abusive way the therapist has to by law report it. Hmmmm, I wonder about that. Mikey, What do you want to bet that the therapist will not want anything to do with going before a judge in defense of her client knowing that illegal drug use has been ongoing but yet has done nothing about it. Whatever accomplishments that have been made would be thrown by the wayside and all that will be heard is the fact that this minor has been allowed to use illegal drugs outside of home as well as in the home (Even though you don't want it) You will be the one that ultimately will have to face a judge. Just a thought..... I'll tell ya Mikey many of us hear have dealt with our difficult children starting with just simple pot use that leads to Cocaine, Heroin, Meth and some parents here at CD have lost their child forever due to drugs. Its scarey to be a parent that finds themselves having to deal with their own child becoming a addict. I know all of what everyone is saying is allot to digest and I hope that just one little tiny thing that someone says here at CD makes you go AWW-HAW now I get it. We are on your side Mikey and considering that many here have been there done that want so desperately to guide you by sharing what we went through along with what we had to do to save our children from ruin. [/QUOTE]
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