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Oh what a night! Dropped son off at detox at 3am
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 679927" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi RN,</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry for what you are going through. I've been there and I know all the feelings that go along with it.</p><p>There is no betrayal quite like that of your own child stealing from you.</p><p></p><p>I can tell you what my husband and I did when our son stole from us, we called the police and had him arrested. It took time to lead up to this, you see it started out small, a few dollars here and there missing from my purse or husbands wallet. Then he graduated to more money. At the time I kept a good amount of cash in the home and I thought I had it very well hidden. We had a waterbed that had a bookcase headboard. There was a hollow space up underneath the headboard. I had taped an envelope with $3000 cash up underneath the headboard, well my son found it and stole it. Of course he denied it but I knew better so I called the police and had him arrested. The officer told us we should get a safe to keep our emergency cash in so we did. My son stole the whole safe!! To get to the safe he had to get through our locked bedroom door; he took a hammer and beat a hole about a foot in size to get in. I called the police and reported it. The police caught him and I got the safe back intact.</p><p></p><p>My son was also "attending" college, at least that's what he told me of course he wasn't. He went on an on about how great he was doing in his classes. Nothing but lies. My son was using drugs and drinking. He would tell me what he thought I wanted to hear that way he could continue to manipulate me into giving him money. I am so grateful that the veil was removed from eyes and I saw my son for what he was, a liar and an addict.</p><p></p><p>I have also dealt with the threats of suicide and thankfully, that's all they were. I do believe with my son, your son and many here that they are tired of living their lives the way they are. They like it when they are high but when then come down suddenly they hate everything and everyone. You did the right thing by getting him to the hospital.</p><p></p><p>It took me years to finally detach from the drama and chaos my son caused. I kept thinking "this time he will change"</p><p>I can't say that I regret hanging on for as long as I did as I don't want to live with regret but I do wish I would have detached sooner than I did. I know that I did all could to try and help my son but here's the catch, the word "help" I never helped my son I only enabled him to continue his lies and manipulation.</p><p></p><p>You can only do what you are comfortable with but please remember, your life, your health - physical and mental, your peace, they all matter. It's okay to let go of your son and to take your life back.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you are here with us. Keep posting and let us know how things are going.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) to you.............</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/staystrong.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":staystrong:" title="staystrong :staystrong:" data-shortname=":staystrong:" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/notalone.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":notalone:" title="notalone :notalone:" data-shortname=":notalone:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 679927, member: 18516"] Hi RN, I am so sorry for what you are going through. I've been there and I know all the feelings that go along with it. There is no betrayal quite like that of your own child stealing from you. I can tell you what my husband and I did when our son stole from us, we called the police and had him arrested. It took time to lead up to this, you see it started out small, a few dollars here and there missing from my purse or husbands wallet. Then he graduated to more money. At the time I kept a good amount of cash in the home and I thought I had it very well hidden. We had a waterbed that had a bookcase headboard. There was a hollow space up underneath the headboard. I had taped an envelope with $3000 cash up underneath the headboard, well my son found it and stole it. Of course he denied it but I knew better so I called the police and had him arrested. The officer told us we should get a safe to keep our emergency cash in so we did. My son stole the whole safe!! To get to the safe he had to get through our locked bedroom door; he took a hammer and beat a hole about a foot in size to get in. I called the police and reported it. The police caught him and I got the safe back intact. My son was also "attending" college, at least that's what he told me of course he wasn't. He went on an on about how great he was doing in his classes. Nothing but lies. My son was using drugs and drinking. He would tell me what he thought I wanted to hear that way he could continue to manipulate me into giving him money. I am so grateful that the veil was removed from eyes and I saw my son for what he was, a liar and an addict. I have also dealt with the threats of suicide and thankfully, that's all they were. I do believe with my son, your son and many here that they are tired of living their lives the way they are. They like it when they are high but when then come down suddenly they hate everything and everyone. You did the right thing by getting him to the hospital. It took me years to finally detach from the drama and chaos my son caused. I kept thinking "this time he will change" I can't say that I regret hanging on for as long as I did as I don't want to live with regret but I do wish I would have detached sooner than I did. I know that I did all could to try and help my son but here's the catch, the word "help" I never helped my son I only enabled him to continue his lies and manipulation. You can only do what you are comfortable with but please remember, your life, your health - physical and mental, your peace, they all matter. It's okay to let go of your son and to take your life back. I'm glad you are here with us. Keep posting and let us know how things are going. ((HUGS)) to you............. :staystrong::notalone: [/QUOTE]
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