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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 735895" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Pink, again I am not arguing or saying you are wrong. Please, please dont think I am. I enjoy you very much! Just saying that we are all so different--- not all kids grow up to be like their parents. Some are nothing like them. They weren't close or they didn't care or their peers meant more. Or they are their own people, individual thinkers (I unconsciously copied some of the BAD of my mother but was in no way like her in my good traits or as far as dress, taste in fashion or men, anything really).</p><p></p><p>How people turn out is a great mystery. You are right to wonder. Five siblings can be very different yet they were raised the same. I am the kind of person who forms opinions on my own, and nobody can influence me if I make up my mind about something. That isn't always good lol.</p><p></p><p>Here's a kind of a funny example of my mother vs. me. Pink, do you remember pedal pushers? Lol. Bet you do! Mom wore those and stretch pants (remember?) all the time! I think her tops were just stretch tops. She was actually very beautiful but nobody noticed. She was unkempt and very out of date. All that beauty was hidden. She didn't care about it.</p><p></p><p>Now I never yearned to be a fashion plate, nor was I ever as beautiful as she was, but you would not catch me in clothes that were so out of date that nobody else dressed that way. I liked to look pretty. I didn't copy her taste in men either, if my dad is an example lol. And I didn't want a man like my dad ever. He loved me unconditionally but I am close to being an empath and my dad lacked compassion for others. Unless it was about him. I loved him a lot but didn't like men who looked or acted like him.</p><p></p><p>I look a lot like my mother and I wish I didnt. Heck, I wish I was adopted lol. I have always wished that.</p><p></p><p>You know, I could be way wrong, but I think the mystery of why we like things a certain way is for different reasons with each person. So I don't think the "why" question applies the same way to everyone.</p><p></p><p>I think it shows that you are bright that you think hard about unexplainables. I have always been a very deep over thinker myself. So in this way we may actually be ALIKE!!! I may not be as smart though <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p></p><p>But my childhood shaped me in only one way.....I didn't want the rest of my life to be anything like my childhood. I chose a new set of values, which I think are better, a new type of neighborhood, I even ditched my culture/religion. </p><p></p><p>My dad wore these gross undersirts lol. White...hard to describe. I would never want a guy I was with to wear that or dress like him. And my mom....I wanted nothing to do with her values, likes or preferences. Now I loved my grandma and am very imaginative like she was. And we both loved kids. I am okay thinking that I look like her because I will love her forever. Maybe the key is if you were close to and loved by your parents.</p><p></p><p>Pink, I hope you know I find you smart, funny and interesting and am just sharing my life, as you share yours. I respect you very much <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 735895, member: 1550"] Pink, again I am not arguing or saying you are wrong. Please, please dont think I am. I enjoy you very much! Just saying that we are all so different--- not all kids grow up to be like their parents. Some are nothing like them. They weren't close or they didn't care or their peers meant more. Or they are their own people, individual thinkers (I unconsciously copied some of the BAD of my mother but was in no way like her in my good traits or as far as dress, taste in fashion or men, anything really). How people turn out is a great mystery. You are right to wonder. Five siblings can be very different yet they were raised the same. I am the kind of person who forms opinions on my own, and nobody can influence me if I make up my mind about something. That isn't always good lol. Here's a kind of a funny example of my mother vs. me. Pink, do you remember pedal pushers? Lol. Bet you do! Mom wore those and stretch pants (remember?) all the time! I think her tops were just stretch tops. She was actually very beautiful but nobody noticed. She was unkempt and very out of date. All that beauty was hidden. She didn't care about it. Now I never yearned to be a fashion plate, nor was I ever as beautiful as she was, but you would not catch me in clothes that were so out of date that nobody else dressed that way. I liked to look pretty. I didn't copy her taste in men either, if my dad is an example lol. And I didn't want a man like my dad ever. He loved me unconditionally but I am close to being an empath and my dad lacked compassion for others. Unless it was about him. I loved him a lot but didn't like men who looked or acted like him. I look a lot like my mother and I wish I didnt. Heck, I wish I was adopted lol. I have always wished that. You know, I could be way wrong, but I think the mystery of why we like things a certain way is for different reasons with each person. So I don't think the "why" question applies the same way to everyone. I think it shows that you are bright that you think hard about unexplainables. I have always been a very deep over thinker myself. So in this way we may actually be ALIKE!!! I may not be as smart though ;) But my childhood shaped me in only one way.....I didn't want the rest of my life to be anything like my childhood. I chose a new set of values, which I think are better, a new type of neighborhood, I even ditched my culture/religion. My dad wore these gross undersirts lol. White...hard to describe. I would never want a guy I was with to wear that or dress like him. And my mom....I wanted nothing to do with her values, likes or preferences. Now I loved my grandma and am very imaginative like she was. And we both loved kids. I am okay thinking that I look like her because I will love her forever. Maybe the key is if you were close to and loved by your parents. Pink, I hope you know I find you smart, funny and interesting and am just sharing my life, as you share yours. I respect you very much :) [/QUOTE]
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