Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
OMG, his plan is to return here...
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 657822" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I <em>do</em> understand, and it <em>does</em> make sense - but only when they're children. You're talking about a grown man. Would you date a man that you knew behaved like this? Would you ask him over for dinner (let alone put him up in a spare bedroom)?</p><p></p><p>This child is grown and gone because he chose to be gone. Why choose to bring him back and have your home be "not happy and scary"? Of course we'll support you whatever you choose to do. on the other hand I've been here 13 years now and I know that support comes in many forms. With the adult children when we're first starting out there's a lot of sympathy in the support, and then comes encouragement to let them go and agree with them to be there when they have made progress and agree with yourself to not be their victim when they haven't. You're at the part now where we are encouraging you to not be his victim anymore. Letting him come home (in my opinion even for a meal) would be a bad idea under the circumstances.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 657822, member: 99"] I [I]do[/I] understand, and it [I]does[/I] make sense - but only when they're children. You're talking about a grown man. Would you date a man that you knew behaved like this? Would you ask him over for dinner (let alone put him up in a spare bedroom)? This child is grown and gone because he chose to be gone. Why choose to bring him back and have your home be "not happy and scary"? Of course we'll support you whatever you choose to do. on the other hand I've been here 13 years now and I know that support comes in many forms. With the adult children when we're first starting out there's a lot of sympathy in the support, and then comes encouragement to let them go and agree with them to be there when they have made progress and agree with yourself to not be their victim when they haven't. You're at the part now where we are encouraging you to not be his victim anymore. Letting him come home (in my opinion even for a meal) would be a bad idea under the circumstances. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
OMG, his plan is to return here...
Top