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One of us is nuts, is it him or me (or both).
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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 13014" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>I wouldnt take his calls every time he calls. Make sure you have voice mail or an answering machine. Are you doing any sort of family therapy? If so maybe talk about this in family therapy that you will talk to him on two days a week to start. Make them a scheduled two days a week. If he only calls once...fine and dandy. But his days to call are say sunday and wednesday. Any other days you dont take his calls and if there is an emergency someone in authority will find you rest assured. </p><p></p><p>Its like he is teetering between "Im a grown up, leave me be and I dont wanna grow up, Im a toys r us kid!" Not an altogether foreign concept with this age group. He just needs to learn to handle these feelings with a bit of grace. I will never forget my middle son (the marine) coming home after all his training and he had moved into the barracks. He was sitting in the den around new years and he told us that sure wished he had known all those years when he couldnt wait to be an adult that it wasnt as fun as he thought it would be...that now he wished he could go back to being a kid again! LOL. We just laughed with him and told him you cant ever go back. He had made some really hard adult decisions to join a really tough branch of the military but that we knew he would rise to whatever challenges came his way because he was a man of character. And he did.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 13014, member: 1514"] I wouldnt take his calls every time he calls. Make sure you have voice mail or an answering machine. Are you doing any sort of family therapy? If so maybe talk about this in family therapy that you will talk to him on two days a week to start. Make them a scheduled two days a week. If he only calls once...fine and dandy. But his days to call are say sunday and wednesday. Any other days you dont take his calls and if there is an emergency someone in authority will find you rest assured. Its like he is teetering between "Im a grown up, leave me be and I dont wanna grow up, Im a toys r us kid!" Not an altogether foreign concept with this age group. He just needs to learn to handle these feelings with a bit of grace. I will never forget my middle son (the marine) coming home after all his training and he had moved into the barracks. He was sitting in the den around new years and he told us that sure wished he had known all those years when he couldnt wait to be an adult that it wasnt as fun as he thought it would be...that now he wished he could go back to being a kid again! LOL. We just laughed with him and told him you cant ever go back. He had made some really hard adult decisions to join a really tough branch of the military but that we knew he would rise to whatever challenges came his way because he was a man of character. And he did. [/QUOTE]
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