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One of us is nuts, is it him or me (or both).
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<blockquote data-quote="everywoman" data-source="post: 13022" data-attributes="member: 1436"><p><strong>Yet, part of me thinks he really NEEDS to dump some of his pent-up feelings on someone who loves him no matter what</strong> </p><p></p><p>Your son sounds so much like mine used to be. I spent years feeling sorry for him because of his "problems" and his "conditon". I made excuses for his rudeness and blamed his friends when he got in trouble. It wasn't until I opened my eyes and say that I had created a brat that I quit. By then it was too late...He had moved on from pot to cocaine and xanex. He had stopped begging me for things and stealing from me to get them. He had moved from one "bad" set of friends to ones who were even "worse" and he was the ring leader. If he called me today in a negative mood, I would tell me politely to call back when he was able to hold a civil consersation. I will never again feel sorry for him because of the choices he has made. I will no longer enable his addictions or his rude behavior. I will no longer be his doormat---but I will be his mother. That means when he makes good choices I support him. When his choices are wrong, I tell him. When he does what he is supposed to, I am willing to help him. As Fran told me years ago: Do to get!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="everywoman, post: 13022, member: 1436"] [b]Yet, part of me thinks he really NEEDS to dump some of his pent-up feelings on someone who loves him no matter what[/b] Your son sounds so much like mine used to be. I spent years feeling sorry for him because of his "problems" and his "conditon". I made excuses for his rudeness and blamed his friends when he got in trouble. It wasn't until I opened my eyes and say that I had created a brat that I quit. By then it was too late...He had moved on from pot to cocaine and xanex. He had stopped begging me for things and stealing from me to get them. He had moved from one "bad" set of friends to ones who were even "worse" and he was the ring leader. If he called me today in a negative mood, I would tell me politely to call back when he was able to hold a civil consersation. I will never again feel sorry for him because of the choices he has made. I will no longer enable his addictions or his rude behavior. I will no longer be his doormat---but I will be his mother. That means when he makes good choices I support him. When his choices are wrong, I tell him. When he does what he is supposed to, I am willing to help him. As Fran told me years ago: Do to get! [/QUOTE]
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