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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 761838" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Hi Laura. Kids with addiction (or parents or friends etc.) don't let us know what they are doing. They don't want us to bother them about their drug use or alcohol abuse so we are kept in the dark. It is hard to have a close relationship with an addict and harder to have a relationship with an adult child who has a very difficult personality. They both want to be a secret from us and refuse to properly become financially independent. So they tend to contact us mostly when they are in trouble with child like demands that we hand over money. They are not nice if we say no. As long as we allow it, they abuse us. As long as we allow it, they inject their chaos into our lives. The worst part in my opinion is that we can't trust their motives, theor words, their intentions. We don't know them from the inside out. We have to always wonder, guess or be on high alert. These are not normal relationships. But I at least accept that my daughter is who she is. Until I accepted her, I was not at peace at all.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion you are starting to learn to let go and to take care of yourself. You are setting boundaries. All of us either learn how to let go of our difficult child or we suffer. Letting go is hard but very freeing. It doesn't mean we never see them again...that is our choice and theirs. It does mean we give our loved ones craziness to a higher power of any sort and lift it off our own shoulders.</p><p></p><p>Sending blessings.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 761838, member: 23706"] Hi Laura. Kids with addiction (or parents or friends etc.) don't let us know what they are doing. They don't want us to bother them about their drug use or alcohol abuse so we are kept in the dark. It is hard to have a close relationship with an addict and harder to have a relationship with an adult child who has a very difficult personality. They both want to be a secret from us and refuse to properly become financially independent. So they tend to contact us mostly when they are in trouble with child like demands that we hand over money. They are not nice if we say no. As long as we allow it, they abuse us. As long as we allow it, they inject their chaos into our lives. The worst part in my opinion is that we can't trust their motives, theor words, their intentions. We don't know them from the inside out. We have to always wonder, guess or be on high alert. These are not normal relationships. But I at least accept that my daughter is who she is. Until I accepted her, I was not at peace at all. in my opinion you are starting to learn to let go and to take care of yourself. You are setting boundaries. All of us either learn how to let go of our difficult child or we suffer. Letting go is hard but very freeing. It doesn't mean we never see them again...that is our choice and theirs. It does mean we give our loved ones craziness to a higher power of any sort and lift it off our own shoulders. Sending blessings. [/QUOTE]
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