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<blockquote data-quote="LauraH" data-source="post: 747057" data-attributes="member: 22877"><p>It's tragic that we feel we have to be enablers and victims or risk being cut out of our children's lives forever. With some there is no middle ground. It's "give me everything I ask for or you'll never see me again." That's emotional blackmail, and sadly, it works most of the time.</p><p></p><p>But I think, at the end of the day, that we will eventually hear from them, when they need something and have nowhere to turn but us. I've seen stories to that effect on this very forum, parents who don't hear from their kids for a year or more and then out of the blue, for whatever reason, they get a call or email or unexpected visit. </p><p></p><p>If you read my own post I've decided I can't bring my son back into my home after he's discharged from the hospital. I've said that before and always ended up caving in, but this time I'm adamant. If it requires me taking legal action against him I won't hesitate to, and I am willing to take the risk of losing him forever. Because if I don't stand firm this time I'm risking my own health and sanity, as well as my marriage. And I will not...I REFUSE to continue risking or sacrificing my marriage to the person who truly has my back for my son who would throw me under the bus in a heartbeat if he had something to gain from it. And how sad is that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LauraH, post: 747057, member: 22877"] It's tragic that we feel we have to be enablers and victims or risk being cut out of our children's lives forever. With some there is no middle ground. It's "give me everything I ask for or you'll never see me again." That's emotional blackmail, and sadly, it works most of the time. But I think, at the end of the day, that we will eventually hear from them, when they need something and have nowhere to turn but us. I've seen stories to that effect on this very forum, parents who don't hear from their kids for a year or more and then out of the blue, for whatever reason, they get a call or email or unexpected visit. If you read my own post I've decided I can't bring my son back into my home after he's discharged from the hospital. I've said that before and always ended up caving in, but this time I'm adamant. If it requires me taking legal action against him I won't hesitate to, and I am willing to take the risk of losing him forever. Because if I don't stand firm this time I'm risking my own health and sanity, as well as my marriage. And I will not...I REFUSE to continue risking or sacrificing my marriage to the person who truly has my back for my son who would throw me under the bus in a heartbeat if he had something to gain from it. And how sad is that. [/QUOTE]
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